1 00:00:01,120 --> 00:00:05,200 NARRATOR: The countdown is on until the end of the experiment 2 00:00:05,240 --> 00:00:07,720 and their final vow ceremonies. 3 00:00:08,720 --> 00:00:10,800 DAVE: The hardest decision is to fight 4 00:00:10,840 --> 00:00:12,960 and that's what we want to do and I want to move forward. 5 00:00:13,000 --> 00:00:15,520 And this past week... 6 00:00:19,240 --> 00:00:23,600 ..our couples began planning their lives beyond the experiment. 7 00:00:23,640 --> 00:00:26,240 JEFF: Here's a key to my apartment. RHI: (LAUGHS) That's so cute. 8 00:00:26,280 --> 00:00:27,440 Thank you. 9 00:00:27,480 --> 00:00:30,080 But the future wasn't clear for Beth... 10 00:00:30,120 --> 00:00:32,680 If it all ended abruptly tomorrow, 11 00:00:32,720 --> 00:00:34,760 is my daughter gonna get her heart broken? 12 00:00:34,800 --> 00:00:36,240 Um... 13 00:00:38,040 --> 00:00:40,720 Your brain is so small. My brain is small? 14 00:00:40,760 --> 00:00:41,760 Yeah. 15 00:00:41,800 --> 00:00:44,200 ..and a challenging homestays... 16 00:00:44,240 --> 00:00:46,000 I think he's been absolutely gypped of this experiment 17 00:00:46,040 --> 00:00:47,360 by being put with you. 18 00:00:47,400 --> 00:00:51,680 ..led to Ryan announcing he wants out of his marriage with Jacqui. 19 00:00:51,720 --> 00:00:53,320 I'm just sick of it! I've had a gutful, mate! 20 00:00:53,360 --> 00:00:54,440 I'm sick of it, Jacqui! 21 00:00:54,480 --> 00:00:56,280 I can't... I can't do this, Jacqui. 22 00:00:56,320 --> 00:00:59,560 JACQUI: I don't lose people. 23 00:00:59,600 --> 00:01:01,240 People lose me. 24 00:01:04,200 --> 00:01:05,520 Tonight... 25 00:01:06,680 --> 00:01:11,360 it's the final commitment ceremony of the experiment. 26 00:01:11,400 --> 00:01:15,600 JOHN: The very last opportunity to get feedback from the experts 27 00:01:15,640 --> 00:01:18,560 to make an accurate decision going into final vows. 28 00:01:18,600 --> 00:01:21,560 No more beating around the bush. 29 00:01:21,600 --> 00:01:24,200 The experts apply the pressure. 30 00:01:24,240 --> 00:01:28,120 Is it just really as simple as you're just not that into her? 31 00:01:28,160 --> 00:01:30,880 Tough questions... 32 00:01:30,920 --> 00:01:34,040 Do you think Awhina could be that right person for you? 33 00:01:34,080 --> 00:01:35,760 Um... 34 00:01:35,800 --> 00:01:38,480 ..lead to unexpected bombshells. 35 00:01:38,520 --> 00:01:41,160 At the moment, I don't think I'm in love with Dave. 36 00:01:41,200 --> 00:01:42,840 (DRAMATIC MUSIC) 37 00:01:42,880 --> 00:01:43,880 And then... 38 00:01:43,920 --> 00:01:47,240 We're having a conversation about how you have made Ryan feel. 39 00:01:47,280 --> 00:01:50,280 ..the experts hold Jacqui to account. 40 00:01:50,320 --> 00:01:51,440 (LAUGHS) As a person. 41 00:01:52,920 --> 00:01:54,800 JOHN: Jacqui, Jacqui, hold on. MEL: I'm not sure what's funny. 42 00:01:54,840 --> 00:01:57,280 And they are not in a laughing mood. 43 00:01:57,320 --> 00:02:01,280 Why are you laughing about something that is so important to him? 44 00:02:01,320 --> 00:02:02,560 Just sit with that. 45 00:02:02,600 --> 00:02:04,280 Now, back to you, Ryan. 46 00:02:04,320 --> 00:02:06,080 Will Jacqui and Ryan quit the experiment 47 00:02:06,120 --> 00:02:08,640 just days before the final vows? 48 00:02:08,680 --> 00:02:10,080 JACQUI: Um... 49 00:02:10,120 --> 00:02:11,840 (JEFF GASPS) 50 00:02:11,880 --> 00:02:12,920 WOMAN: What? TEEJAY: Oh, my god. 51 00:02:21,800 --> 00:02:24,800 (BRIGHT MUSIC PLAYS) 52 00:02:29,480 --> 00:02:33,480 It's the morning of the final commitment ceremony... 53 00:02:33,520 --> 00:02:34,960 ADRIAN: Get out. AWHINA: Stay, stay, stay. 54 00:02:35,000 --> 00:02:37,080 I've had enough of you. Stay. (LAUGHS) 55 00:02:37,120 --> 00:02:39,520 ..and after more than eight weeks in the experiment... 56 00:02:39,560 --> 00:02:41,600 (LAUGHS) 57 00:02:41,640 --> 00:02:43,520 We've been married for nearly three months. 58 00:02:43,560 --> 00:02:45,520 PAUL: I know, yeah. How crazy is that! 59 00:02:45,560 --> 00:02:50,560 ..tonight marks the final time our couples will meet with the experts. 60 00:02:50,600 --> 00:02:51,680 We're good. (RHI LAUGHS) 61 00:02:51,720 --> 00:02:53,920 As always. (LAUGHS) 62 00:02:53,960 --> 00:02:57,800 But it's the controversy from last night's dinner party 63 00:02:57,840 --> 00:03:02,400 that's still front and centre in everyone's minds. 64 00:03:02,440 --> 00:03:05,360 JAMIE: Last night was a bit interesting, wasn't it? 65 00:03:05,400 --> 00:03:08,200 CARINA: It was a crucial one, homestays, I think. 66 00:03:08,240 --> 00:03:09,640 PAUL: Well, it's a turning point, you know. 67 00:03:09,680 --> 00:03:10,520 Yeah. 68 00:03:10,560 --> 00:03:13,080 It can make your relationship blossom, which has been our case. 69 00:03:13,120 --> 00:03:14,280 Yeah. 70 00:03:14,320 --> 00:03:15,880 Or it can have the exact opposite effect, and you look... 71 00:03:15,920 --> 00:03:17,520 Like, Teejay and Beth are the perfect example. 72 00:03:17,560 --> 00:03:18,520 Yeah. 73 00:03:18,560 --> 00:03:21,680 Your dad said to me, if the experiment ends tomorrow, yes or no, 74 00:03:21,720 --> 00:03:23,120 is my daughter gonna get her heart broken? 75 00:03:23,160 --> 00:03:24,600 I know, and he used the wrong word. 76 00:03:24,640 --> 00:03:27,120 He probably should've said "Is she gonna be hurt?" 77 00:03:27,160 --> 00:03:28,600 I was diplomatic in the way I answered 78 00:03:28,640 --> 00:03:29,960 because I don't want to give a yes or a no. 79 00:03:30,000 --> 00:03:34,560 All I wanted from you was to know that you liked me just a little bit, 80 00:03:34,600 --> 00:03:37,520 enough to actually want to progress this on the outside. 81 00:03:37,560 --> 00:03:38,960 That is not what you said, darling. 82 00:03:39,000 --> 00:03:42,440 Take a shot for every time Teejay says 'darling'. 83 00:03:42,480 --> 00:03:45,040 You never ask me if I wanted to keep trying in this experiment, darling. 84 00:03:47,120 --> 00:03:48,240 PAUL: It's all a little bit confusing. 85 00:03:48,280 --> 00:03:50,200 CARINA: It was confusing, wasn't it? 86 00:03:50,240 --> 00:03:52,720 I'm just not buying it. Yeah. 87 00:03:52,760 --> 00:03:56,120 I think the 'darling' part doesn't help Teejay's case either. 88 00:03:56,160 --> 00:03:57,680 (LAUGHS) The darling part... (LAUGHS) 89 00:03:57,720 --> 00:04:00,720 AWHINA: There was no resolution with them two last night. 90 00:04:00,760 --> 00:04:03,480 ADRIAN: I think they're just focusing on the wrong things. 91 00:04:03,520 --> 00:04:05,680 Like, go on dates, go have fun. Like, you know... 92 00:04:05,720 --> 00:04:07,440 They haven't done that. 93 00:04:07,480 --> 00:04:10,720 Like, I know she feels like Teejay doesn't want her, 94 00:04:10,760 --> 00:04:13,440 so she's not acting like herself in the relationship. 95 00:04:13,480 --> 00:04:16,280 OK, well, maybe his enough is not enough. 96 00:04:23,280 --> 00:04:24,520 TEEJAY: I definitely felt pressured 97 00:04:24,560 --> 00:04:25,920 when getting those yes or no questions 98 00:04:25,960 --> 00:04:28,760 from Beth and her family and friends at homestays. 99 00:04:28,800 --> 00:04:31,280 You know, that's a definite. That's a line in the sand. 100 00:04:31,320 --> 00:04:33,000 "Do you want to be with me? Yes or no? 101 00:04:33,040 --> 00:04:34,320 "If not, then we're not gonna catch up." 102 00:04:34,360 --> 00:04:38,360 You know, Beth, she hasn't gone through as much as I have 103 00:04:38,400 --> 00:04:40,080 in a relationship perspective... 104 00:04:41,320 --> 00:04:43,720 and I think Beth is definitely asking these questions 105 00:04:43,760 --> 00:04:45,200 'cause she needs the reassurance 106 00:04:45,240 --> 00:04:47,000 that maybe she won't get her heart broken 107 00:04:47,040 --> 00:04:50,680 or maybe it's where she wants the relationship to be. 108 00:04:52,000 --> 00:04:56,520 I don't like Beth any less. I still adore her as a person. 109 00:04:56,560 --> 00:04:57,960 I think she's fantastic inside and out. 110 00:04:58,000 --> 00:05:01,360 It's just hard when I've been struggling with that connection. 111 00:05:03,360 --> 00:05:04,920 And where my head is at 112 00:05:04,960 --> 00:05:07,920 is that I don't know if this is a friendship or a relationship, 113 00:05:07,960 --> 00:05:10,320 so I just want to do what's best for myself 114 00:05:10,360 --> 00:05:14,800 and I also want to do what I think is best for Beth as well. 115 00:05:18,920 --> 00:05:20,360 BETH: Last night was a lot, 116 00:05:20,400 --> 00:05:24,080 but it was good for me to get the things I needed off my chest. 117 00:05:24,120 --> 00:05:26,440 At the table, when I was trying to explain how I feel, 118 00:05:26,480 --> 00:05:28,800 he said that he thought I was asking for a yes or no answer. 119 00:05:28,840 --> 00:05:30,320 That's not what I want. 120 00:05:30,360 --> 00:05:32,960 All I want is for you to just be able to say, 121 00:05:33,000 --> 00:05:35,560 "Look, we're not in the best place but I'm willing to work on it." 122 00:05:37,720 --> 00:05:40,640 Going off of the conversation he had with just me one on one 123 00:05:40,680 --> 00:05:42,120 last night at the dinner party, 124 00:05:42,160 --> 00:05:44,280 I did feel like Teejay was very genuine. 125 00:05:44,320 --> 00:05:46,720 He never once said, "Look, I want to leave." 126 00:05:46,760 --> 00:05:48,120 He never said that. 127 00:05:48,160 --> 00:05:50,840 If you don't want to be here, that's so fine. 128 00:05:50,880 --> 00:05:53,600 I just need to... I just need to hear it. 129 00:05:53,640 --> 00:05:56,880 I just don't want to rush something right now. 130 00:05:56,920 --> 00:05:58,200 JOHN: Oh, no. MEL: Aw. 131 00:05:58,240 --> 00:06:00,040 Sure. Of course. 132 00:06:00,080 --> 00:06:02,320 That's not me saying no. Mm-hm. Of course. 133 00:06:02,360 --> 00:06:04,560 Yeah. Alright. 134 00:06:05,680 --> 00:06:07,440 Yeah, see, there's the mixed messages. 135 00:06:07,480 --> 00:06:09,200 ALESSANDRA: Yeah. He gives her crumbs. 136 00:06:09,240 --> 00:06:10,840 Mmm. 137 00:06:17,400 --> 00:06:21,680 BETH: I feel like I've been very consistent in this experiment. 138 00:06:21,720 --> 00:06:26,240 I've tried to be as open as I can and I know Teejay has tried as well, 139 00:06:26,280 --> 00:06:29,040 otherwise, if there was literally zero, I wouldn't be here. 140 00:06:29,080 --> 00:06:31,880 You know, he comes to homestays, we've been on a date, 141 00:06:31,920 --> 00:06:33,880 he slept with me again. 142 00:06:33,920 --> 00:06:37,160 He needs an emotional connection to be intimate, 143 00:06:37,200 --> 00:06:39,560 so I hope that means that he does have 144 00:06:39,600 --> 00:06:41,040 an emotional connection to me 145 00:06:41,080 --> 00:06:42,800 'cause otherwise I guess it wouldn't make sense for him 146 00:06:42,840 --> 00:06:44,040 to initiate that. 147 00:06:45,720 --> 00:06:47,280 To me, they're all signs of, like, 148 00:06:47,320 --> 00:06:50,400 "OK, he is interested in growing in this relationship." 149 00:06:50,440 --> 00:06:53,000 I know Teejay needs some time to think 150 00:06:53,040 --> 00:06:54,880 and, you know, his head's all over the place. 151 00:06:54,920 --> 00:06:56,480 But I'm here to support him. 152 00:06:56,520 --> 00:07:00,000 I've got a guy that I do like being around. 153 00:07:00,040 --> 00:07:02,320 I am, you know, hopeful there's a future 154 00:07:02,360 --> 00:07:06,680 because I'm here and now I'm ready to give him everything 155 00:07:06,720 --> 00:07:10,200 and for me, I want to drop all this awkward tension. 156 00:07:10,240 --> 00:07:11,720 I don't like it. 157 00:07:11,760 --> 00:07:14,960 But that's up to him and how he wants to move forward. 158 00:07:15,000 --> 00:07:19,720 It can only feel nice if we both try and I know I'm willing to try. 159 00:07:21,240 --> 00:07:22,680 I just don't know if he is. 160 00:07:24,760 --> 00:07:27,640 (DRAMATIC MUSIC) 161 00:07:27,680 --> 00:07:31,520 NARRATOR: As Beth and Teejay contemplate tonight's decisions, 162 00:07:31,560 --> 00:07:35,760 our other couples are preparing for the final commitment ceremony 163 00:07:35,800 --> 00:07:37,360 of the experiment. 164 00:07:37,400 --> 00:07:40,200 JEFF: Are you excited about our last commitment ceremony ever? 165 00:07:40,240 --> 00:07:42,480 RHI: I can't believe it's actually the last one. 166 00:07:42,520 --> 00:07:44,600 That is... Time has flown. 167 00:07:44,640 --> 00:07:48,680 This will be their last opportunity to face the experts 168 00:07:48,720 --> 00:07:51,880 before making the ultimate choice, 169 00:07:51,920 --> 00:07:54,560 to stay and continue in the experiment 170 00:07:54,600 --> 00:07:56,040 through to final vows 171 00:07:56,080 --> 00:08:00,200 or leave their marriages and go their separate ways. 172 00:08:00,240 --> 00:08:02,200 PAUL: I reckon the experts are probably gonna be asking 173 00:08:02,240 --> 00:08:03,440 some of the hard questions, 174 00:08:03,480 --> 00:08:05,320 probably gonna want to make sure that everyone, 175 00:08:05,360 --> 00:08:07,480 every couple are on the same page, you know. 176 00:08:07,520 --> 00:08:10,680 I guess we'll unpack it all tonight. 177 00:08:10,720 --> 00:08:14,320 During their one-on-one conversation at last night's dinner party, 178 00:08:14,360 --> 00:08:18,160 Jacqui made an emotional plea to Ryan, 179 00:08:18,200 --> 00:08:20,760 something she is still processing. 180 00:08:22,760 --> 00:08:25,480 I am accepting you. I don't think I'm better than you. 181 00:08:25,520 --> 00:08:27,640 And, like, I'm trying so hard. 182 00:08:27,680 --> 00:08:32,880 I can't... I can't do this, Jacqui. I'm exhausted mentally. 183 00:08:33,920 --> 00:08:35,880 I'm sorry you're exhausted. 184 00:08:35,920 --> 00:08:37,680 (SIGHS) 185 00:08:39,440 --> 00:08:41,000 I didn't mean to hurt you. 186 00:08:49,720 --> 00:08:52,800 I think last night was a real eye-opener for me... 187 00:08:54,280 --> 00:08:58,400 just in terms of the realisations I've had with Ryan, 188 00:08:58,440 --> 00:09:01,600 to make this the best relationship for the two of us. 189 00:09:01,640 --> 00:09:03,800 I can't build a healthy relationship 190 00:09:03,840 --> 00:09:06,160 without having addressed these concerns I've got 191 00:09:06,200 --> 00:09:08,240 or at least, like, work on compromises 192 00:09:08,280 --> 00:09:12,160 or, you know, have curious intellectual discussions about them. 193 00:09:12,200 --> 00:09:13,920 So I'm really proud of myself 194 00:09:13,960 --> 00:09:17,160 and I did an absolutely exceptional job last night. 195 00:09:19,200 --> 00:09:21,080 During that one-on-one discussion, 196 00:09:21,120 --> 00:09:25,480 I was able to convince Ryan to start working through some of our problems 197 00:09:25,520 --> 00:09:27,960 which is really difficult for Ryan to agree to. 198 00:09:28,000 --> 00:09:30,880 Like, he never wants to do that, just the two of us. 199 00:09:30,920 --> 00:09:32,760 But I do think this experiment's good for Ryan. 200 00:09:32,800 --> 00:09:34,720 There's so much he needs to learn. 201 00:09:35,800 --> 00:09:39,120 And he'll probably have to re-watch his behaviour. 202 00:09:39,160 --> 00:09:42,160 But I do think he's really lucky to be with me 203 00:09:42,200 --> 00:09:45,000 and I do think that this relationship can repair itself 204 00:09:45,040 --> 00:09:46,120 and move forward, 205 00:09:46,160 --> 00:09:47,200 because Ryan never expressly said 206 00:09:47,240 --> 00:09:49,520 that he doesn't want to be here with me 207 00:09:49,560 --> 00:09:51,080 and that he wants to go home 208 00:09:51,120 --> 00:09:53,840 and when I was asking him, you know, 209 00:09:53,880 --> 00:09:56,080 "Do you see anything in me that you want to keep working on?" 210 00:09:56,120 --> 00:09:57,360 he kind of just went silent. 211 00:09:57,400 --> 00:10:00,960 He didn't say no, which in my mind, like, 212 00:10:01,000 --> 00:10:03,520 when Ryan does this, it means he's writing 'stay'. 213 00:10:05,520 --> 00:10:07,160 RYAN: I'm writing 'leave'. 214 00:10:08,560 --> 00:10:10,760 Emotionally, I'm just tired. 215 00:10:10,800 --> 00:10:15,360 I just... I don't know, I think the well's dried up. 216 00:10:15,400 --> 00:10:19,360 It's really sad but, like, I've gotta be realistic. 217 00:10:19,400 --> 00:10:22,000 At this point in my life, I'm getting closer to 40, 218 00:10:22,040 --> 00:10:23,120 like, I need the real thing. 219 00:10:23,160 --> 00:10:27,240 I don't need the conflicts, I don't need the drama. 220 00:10:27,280 --> 00:10:30,720 The dinner party for me was really the time 221 00:10:30,760 --> 00:10:34,080 where I took that opportunity to just, like, lay everything out 222 00:10:34,120 --> 00:10:36,640 for the entire group to see, you know, 223 00:10:36,680 --> 00:10:40,680 like, what the relationship is kind of really like behind closed doors. 224 00:10:42,280 --> 00:10:46,600 We have arguments we don't need to and my feelings get diminished 225 00:10:46,640 --> 00:10:48,240 and I feel like a project, 226 00:10:48,280 --> 00:10:50,560 that I'm being worked on by somebody else and moulded and whatnot, 227 00:10:50,600 --> 00:10:53,120 but I know exactly who I am 228 00:10:53,160 --> 00:10:55,000 and at this point in my life, 229 00:10:55,040 --> 00:10:58,280 all I want is for someone to fully embrace that. 230 00:10:59,560 --> 00:11:01,520 If we can't figure it out with ourselves 231 00:11:01,560 --> 00:11:04,240 and we keep having vastly different approaches to things, 232 00:11:04,280 --> 00:11:08,800 then, yeah, like, I just don't think there's a future for us. 233 00:11:15,560 --> 00:11:18,480 (DRAMATIC MUSIC) 234 00:11:21,040 --> 00:11:23,560 ADRIAN: Hello, hello. JOHN: Greetings, gentlemen. 235 00:11:23,600 --> 00:11:25,640 MEL: Hello, guys. How are you guys? 236 00:11:25,680 --> 00:11:27,240 ALESSANDRA: Hi. Welcome. JOHN: Very good. 237 00:11:27,280 --> 00:11:28,440 We're good. 238 00:11:29,840 --> 00:11:31,120 (ADRIAN EXHALES) 239 00:11:32,440 --> 00:11:33,520 (PAUL EXHALES) 240 00:11:43,800 --> 00:11:46,360 (DRAMATIC MUSIC) 241 00:11:46,400 --> 00:11:48,640 Greetings, ladies. WOMAN: Hello. 242 00:11:49,720 --> 00:11:52,560 Hi, boys. ADRIAN: Ladies. 243 00:11:52,600 --> 00:11:53,840 Hello. MEL: Hello. 244 00:11:53,880 --> 00:11:55,920 RHI: Hi. WOMEN: Hi. 245 00:11:55,960 --> 00:11:58,000 Hello. Mwah. How are you? 246 00:11:58,040 --> 00:12:00,000 RYAN: Hi. JACQUI: How you going? 247 00:12:00,040 --> 00:12:01,080 Are you good? 248 00:12:01,120 --> 00:12:02,400 Mwah. How are you? 249 00:12:02,440 --> 00:12:03,400 I'm good. How are you? 250 00:12:03,440 --> 00:12:06,440 (DRAMATIC MUSIC) 251 00:12:11,320 --> 00:12:12,360 Well, welcome, everybody, 252 00:12:12,400 --> 00:12:16,920 to the very final commitment ceremony of this experiment. 253 00:12:16,960 --> 00:12:21,680 Now, it was over two months ago that you began this process 254 00:12:21,720 --> 00:12:24,400 where you were matched with a complete stranger 255 00:12:24,440 --> 00:12:28,240 and you then went about facing challenges 256 00:12:28,280 --> 00:12:32,520 that most couples typically experience over several years. 257 00:12:32,560 --> 00:12:36,600 They've been thrown at you in a short space of time. 258 00:12:38,440 --> 00:12:41,560 Certainly, we have lost some couples along the way, 259 00:12:41,600 --> 00:12:45,480 but congratulations to all of you for getting this far. 260 00:12:45,520 --> 00:12:50,120 ALESSANDRA: Now, of course, you're all coming back from homestays, 261 00:12:50,160 --> 00:12:52,920 which is such an important part of this experiment... 262 00:12:54,360 --> 00:12:57,800 so we're very much looking forward to hearing how that went 263 00:12:57,840 --> 00:12:59,920 for each and every one of you. 264 00:13:01,600 --> 00:13:03,880 JOHN: Tonight is make-or-break. 265 00:13:03,920 --> 00:13:08,320 This is your last shot with us, 266 00:13:08,360 --> 00:13:11,040 the very last opportunity you're going to have 267 00:13:11,080 --> 00:13:13,080 to get feedback from the experts 268 00:13:13,120 --> 00:13:16,400 that will give you the information you need 269 00:13:16,440 --> 00:13:20,720 to make an accurate decision going into final vows. 270 00:13:21,880 --> 00:13:25,440 MEL: Now, with that being said, our first couple up on the couch... 271 00:13:28,480 --> 00:13:29,800 Jamie and Dave. 272 00:13:29,840 --> 00:13:32,920 JAMIE: Oh. (LAUGHS) (APPLAUSE) 273 00:13:35,120 --> 00:13:36,800 JOHN: Hello, you two. Hello. 274 00:13:36,840 --> 00:13:37,960 MEL: Take a seat. 275 00:13:38,000 --> 00:13:43,320 Well, you two, last time we saw you on this couch, 276 00:13:43,360 --> 00:13:48,640 things had shifted significantly between you. 277 00:13:48,680 --> 00:13:50,040 Yeah. 278 00:13:50,080 --> 00:13:53,440 And observing you last night at the dinner party, 279 00:13:53,480 --> 00:13:58,360 we're all still a little baffled about where things are at 280 00:13:58,400 --> 00:13:59,800 between the two of you, 281 00:13:59,840 --> 00:14:02,240 so we need you to really update us 282 00:14:02,280 --> 00:14:04,400 as to where you've come from in the last week 283 00:14:04,440 --> 00:14:07,480 to get to this point and what next. 284 00:14:07,520 --> 00:14:10,040 Yeah, so... Go on, Dave. 285 00:14:10,080 --> 00:14:11,560 ..the last time, yeah, we are on this couch, 286 00:14:11,600 --> 00:14:14,040 I, you know, copped some questions 287 00:14:14,080 --> 00:14:16,600 that really opened my thoughts and my mind to, 288 00:14:16,640 --> 00:14:18,760 you know, really what this experiment's about. 289 00:14:20,520 --> 00:14:24,520 And I think that we have had such a good time together 290 00:14:24,560 --> 00:14:26,120 getting to know each other. 291 00:14:26,160 --> 00:14:28,640 Yes, we've come out of a rough patch 292 00:14:28,680 --> 00:14:31,800 and I feel like moving forward into homestays, 293 00:14:31,840 --> 00:14:35,560 there was, like, a point where we sort of both were, like, 294 00:14:35,600 --> 00:14:36,920 "This is really gonna be difficult." 295 00:14:38,440 --> 00:14:39,920 OK. 296 00:14:39,960 --> 00:14:43,160 But in this relationship, like, yeah, there's ups and downs 297 00:14:43,200 --> 00:14:45,760 and we don't have to have the living arrangements figured out 298 00:14:45,800 --> 00:14:46,800 straight away. 299 00:14:46,840 --> 00:14:48,520 These are all stepping stones 300 00:14:48,560 --> 00:14:50,400 and there's more positive than negative. 301 00:14:50,440 --> 00:14:51,720 OK. 302 00:14:51,760 --> 00:14:54,440 And that's the main thing I've taken out of it. 303 00:14:55,560 --> 00:14:59,440 Dave, where are your feelings at right now toward Jamie? 304 00:14:59,480 --> 00:15:03,040 I just feel like, you know, the last week, my feelings have grown 305 00:15:03,080 --> 00:15:05,080 and I've been showing up 306 00:15:05,120 --> 00:15:07,320 and she's been receptive of the gestures I've made 307 00:15:07,360 --> 00:15:09,200 and that's helped me come out of my shell. 308 00:15:09,240 --> 00:15:12,200 Now, I know that they're not as strong as where Jamie is 309 00:15:12,240 --> 00:15:15,560 but I can feel the feelings coming on and... 310 00:15:17,280 --> 00:15:18,760 I'm just gonna ask Jamie, 311 00:15:18,800 --> 00:15:22,560 do you feel like the last week has been great for us? 312 00:15:22,600 --> 00:15:24,880 It has been really good for us, 313 00:15:24,920 --> 00:15:26,720 but it doesn't take away the concern part. 314 00:15:28,320 --> 00:15:31,040 MEL: So, let's just rewind to last week when we were here. 315 00:15:31,080 --> 00:15:33,680 And, Jamie, you know, you were talking about 316 00:15:33,720 --> 00:15:35,840 starting to develop real feelings for Dave. 317 00:15:35,880 --> 00:15:37,600 Mm-hm. Mm-hm. 318 00:15:37,640 --> 00:15:39,320 You know, you said that you were in love with him. 319 00:15:39,360 --> 00:15:41,040 Mm-hm. 320 00:15:41,080 --> 00:15:44,040 And, you know, Dave, you were making it pretty clear 321 00:15:44,080 --> 00:15:46,800 that you weren't able to meet Jamie at that level at this point. 322 00:15:46,840 --> 00:15:48,120 Yep. 323 00:15:48,160 --> 00:15:52,160 And, Jamie, you started to question his feelings towards you 324 00:15:52,200 --> 00:15:53,600 and whether that was real 325 00:15:53,640 --> 00:15:56,000 and whether this relationship was actually gonna work out. 326 00:15:57,320 --> 00:15:58,680 Mm-hm. 327 00:15:58,720 --> 00:16:02,520 I felt like the rug was pulled out from under me last week 328 00:16:02,560 --> 00:16:04,880 and I was, like, "Wait a minute, I'm getting all these feelings, 329 00:16:04,920 --> 00:16:07,720 "I'm so invested and my needs aren't even being met 330 00:16:07,760 --> 00:16:09,640 "in the areas I need it." 331 00:16:09,680 --> 00:16:14,720 So I think the love element is, like, a bit on hold now 332 00:16:14,760 --> 00:16:16,880 'cause, like, the rose-coloured glasses are up. 333 00:16:17,880 --> 00:16:21,080 And I was, like, "OK, let's take this, like, a bit more, 334 00:16:21,120 --> 00:16:22,240 "like, step-by-step." 335 00:16:22,280 --> 00:16:26,360 So, are you saying that you're no longer in love with Dave? 336 00:16:28,240 --> 00:16:31,120 At the moment, I don't think I'm in love with Dave. 337 00:16:32,960 --> 00:16:34,040 Wow. 338 00:16:34,080 --> 00:16:37,720 (SOLEMN MUSIC) 339 00:16:45,480 --> 00:16:49,240 So, are you saying that you're no longer in love with Dave? 340 00:16:51,240 --> 00:16:53,760 At the moment, I don't think I'm in love with Dave. 341 00:16:55,600 --> 00:16:57,040 Wow. 342 00:16:59,400 --> 00:17:02,400 I think there's an element of being scared, though. 343 00:17:02,440 --> 00:17:03,880 Understandable. 344 00:17:03,920 --> 00:17:07,440 Like, my feelings get invested and then I get a pull-back 345 00:17:07,480 --> 00:17:12,840 and for so long, I didn't know Dave didn't have feelings progressing... 346 00:17:14,920 --> 00:17:19,880 and I trusted Dave so much. 347 00:17:19,920 --> 00:17:21,920 Like, I was, like, "He'd never do anything to hurt me. 348 00:17:21,960 --> 00:17:24,240 "Like, this man is such a good guy." 349 00:17:24,280 --> 00:17:26,760 So it really just... 350 00:17:26,800 --> 00:17:30,720 It just completely blindsided me. 351 00:17:33,040 --> 00:17:36,040 I think, from my point of view, I feel we're in a good spot 352 00:17:36,080 --> 00:17:38,720 and I feel like that... I do have hope for us. 353 00:17:41,440 --> 00:17:45,800 Jamie, as Dave was talking, you looked quite uncertain 354 00:17:45,840 --> 00:17:47,280 with what he was saying. 355 00:17:48,280 --> 00:17:52,480 The last couple of weeks, I've struggled to feel reassured 356 00:17:52,520 --> 00:17:53,920 by what Dave's saying. 357 00:17:55,760 --> 00:17:57,800 I think she's scared and I can understand that 358 00:17:57,840 --> 00:18:01,160 and I feel like she has, yeah, proceeded with caution. 359 00:18:01,200 --> 00:18:02,960 I can get that. 360 00:18:03,000 --> 00:18:06,200 But I'm trying to show up and be better 361 00:18:06,240 --> 00:18:08,840 and see what we can do together. 362 00:18:08,880 --> 00:18:11,520 JOHN: The two of you, as a couple, 363 00:18:11,560 --> 00:18:14,440 you don't look the way you used to look. 364 00:18:14,480 --> 00:18:19,680 We've seen you throughout the experiment with passion 365 00:18:19,720 --> 00:18:22,880 and chemistry, excitement 366 00:18:22,920 --> 00:18:26,520 and now at the final commitment ceremony, we've got nothing. 367 00:18:28,000 --> 00:18:30,400 I don't even know you, Jamie. Oh. (LAUGHS) 368 00:18:30,440 --> 00:18:33,960 I'm sitting here listening to you, thinking, "What happened to you?" 369 00:18:34,000 --> 00:18:37,080 I'm very anxious right now, sorry. Yeah. 370 00:18:37,120 --> 00:18:40,400 Well, that's because the guy that you're falling in love with 371 00:18:40,440 --> 00:18:44,800 pulled a handbrake on and said, "I don't know if you're the one." 372 00:18:44,840 --> 00:18:49,160 And, you know, the whole time that we've been in these experiments, 373 00:18:49,200 --> 00:18:54,000 I don't know if we've actually seen someone retract an 'I love you'. 374 00:18:55,360 --> 00:18:56,720 Nobody saw this coming. 375 00:18:59,080 --> 00:19:04,680 Dave, Jamie does not need you to be in love with her right now 376 00:19:04,720 --> 00:19:08,000 but she does need to know 377 00:19:08,040 --> 00:19:11,880 that there is a possibility in the future 378 00:19:11,920 --> 00:19:14,360 that that could happen. 379 00:19:18,760 --> 00:19:21,240 I can honestly say I can see it happening one day. 380 00:19:21,280 --> 00:19:23,000 I could fall in love with you. 381 00:19:24,720 --> 00:19:29,480 I know that I've messed up, but we can make this work. 382 00:19:29,520 --> 00:19:33,440 And this experiment is about commitment 383 00:19:33,480 --> 00:19:35,560 and that's what I want to do and I want to continue on. 384 00:19:35,600 --> 00:19:38,000 Sometimes I'm just a stupid little boy 385 00:19:38,040 --> 00:19:41,640 and I hurt people's feelings, OK, and I don't want to do that. 386 00:19:45,320 --> 00:19:47,600 I came here for love 387 00:19:47,640 --> 00:19:51,000 and I don't want to be scared anymore. (LAUGHS) 388 00:19:51,040 --> 00:19:53,800 I'm willing to give it all I've got 389 00:19:53,840 --> 00:19:57,040 because I do care about you and I'll keep showing you. 390 00:19:57,080 --> 00:19:59,120 I feel like that's how we're gonna get out of this. 391 00:20:00,760 --> 00:20:05,280 I can see it and I just... I have to keep showing you and I know that. 392 00:20:08,440 --> 00:20:09,640 (DAVE SIGHS) 393 00:20:14,280 --> 00:20:16,320 MEL: Is it hard to talk about, Dave? 394 00:20:17,400 --> 00:20:21,040 Oh, I just... I know I've hurt her. 395 00:20:21,080 --> 00:20:25,040 I know she's struggling and I know that... 396 00:20:25,080 --> 00:20:26,360 I know what my job is 397 00:20:26,400 --> 00:20:31,280 and I've gotta keep showing up and just build that connection 398 00:20:31,320 --> 00:20:35,280 because I've felt it before and I'm goddamn gonna feel it again, 399 00:20:35,320 --> 00:20:36,600 so... 400 00:20:36,640 --> 00:20:39,640 (GENTLE MUSIC) 401 00:20:47,720 --> 00:20:51,120 Honestly, I haven't gotten this reaction yet. (LAUGHS) So it's nice. 402 00:20:51,160 --> 00:20:53,200 I mean, I don't like seeing him cry... 403 00:20:53,240 --> 00:20:56,000 I'm not crying. (LAUGHTER) 404 00:20:56,040 --> 00:20:58,720 ..but it's like a bit... like, I don't want see him upset 405 00:20:58,760 --> 00:21:01,120 but it's a bit relieving see that there's that emotion there 406 00:21:01,160 --> 00:21:03,120 'cause it's been very concerning... JOHN: Mm-hm. 407 00:21:03,160 --> 00:21:07,840 ..'cause I haven't seen any emotion, like, come from him this whole time. 408 00:21:11,520 --> 00:21:14,600 MEL: Well, you two, we're gonna go to a decision. 409 00:21:15,920 --> 00:21:20,480 We're gonna start with Jamie. 410 00:21:20,520 --> 00:21:23,160 Um... (LAUGHS) 411 00:21:23,200 --> 00:21:27,600 Well, like, yes, we've had a few ups and downs 412 00:21:27,640 --> 00:21:30,320 and we've still got some work to do, 413 00:21:30,360 --> 00:21:36,000 but, like, this lover-girl's gonna see the way through. (LAUGHS) 414 00:21:36,040 --> 00:21:38,200 (EXCLAIMS) Excellent. 415 00:21:38,240 --> 00:21:40,840 You, Dave, your turn. What have you got? 416 00:21:40,880 --> 00:21:45,280 This lover-boy is gonna stay. 417 00:21:45,320 --> 00:21:47,160 Ah. (LAUGHS) (APPLAUSE) 418 00:21:48,360 --> 00:21:49,440 Brilliant. 419 00:21:49,480 --> 00:21:52,720 (LAUGHTER) 420 00:21:52,760 --> 00:21:55,360 Alright, well, the two of you have both said stay, 421 00:21:55,400 --> 00:21:58,400 which means you will be going to the final vows, 422 00:21:58,440 --> 00:22:01,240 which is a really serious decision. 423 00:22:01,280 --> 00:22:05,720 You've had a fantastic session with us today, 424 00:22:05,760 --> 00:22:07,360 so thank you both for... Thank you, guys. 425 00:22:07,400 --> 00:22:08,920 ..being so brave and so open, 426 00:22:08,960 --> 00:22:12,960 but, really, this is a sign that there's a lot of work to be done 427 00:22:13,000 --> 00:22:16,040 in the next few days, few weeks to come. 428 00:22:16,080 --> 00:22:17,720 Yeah. We know you both can do it. 429 00:22:17,760 --> 00:22:20,560 You've shown us tonight that you can. You've gotta keep doing it. 430 00:22:22,680 --> 00:22:23,840 (LAUGHS) Alright, you two. 431 00:22:23,880 --> 00:22:25,520 Thank you so much. Thank you. 432 00:22:25,560 --> 00:22:27,000 Thank you very much, guys. JOHN: Well done, guys. 433 00:22:27,040 --> 00:22:28,240 MEL: Well done. (APPLAUSE) 434 00:22:28,280 --> 00:22:29,880 JOHN: Good work, Dave. 435 00:22:29,920 --> 00:22:32,800 DAVE: I had a bit of a slump and now I'm coming out the other side of it 436 00:22:32,840 --> 00:22:35,400 and I feel like, leading into final vows, 437 00:22:35,440 --> 00:22:38,000 it is important to just do the repairs 438 00:22:38,040 --> 00:22:39,920 to the issues that I've caused... 439 00:22:39,960 --> 00:22:41,320 My palms are sweaty. 440 00:22:41,360 --> 00:22:46,080 ..express how I actually feel and to show up and to keep fighting 441 00:22:46,120 --> 00:22:49,120 and I think it's worth it because Jamie is a great person 442 00:22:49,160 --> 00:22:51,000 and I don't want to destroy that bond, 443 00:22:51,040 --> 00:22:54,200 so I think that it's up to me to sort of, 444 00:22:54,240 --> 00:22:56,760 you know, make things right. 445 00:22:56,800 --> 00:22:58,680 Our next couple up on the couch... 446 00:23:00,760 --> 00:23:02,480 Rhi and Jeff. 447 00:23:02,520 --> 00:23:04,480 Yes. (LAUGHS) 448 00:23:04,520 --> 00:23:06,840 (APPLAUSE) 449 00:23:06,880 --> 00:23:08,560 (LAUGHS) Hey, guys. 450 00:23:08,600 --> 00:23:09,880 MEL: Here they are. Evening, guys. 451 00:23:09,920 --> 00:23:11,560 MEL: Hello. JOHN: Hello, you two. 452 00:23:11,600 --> 00:23:12,800 How are we? Good. 453 00:23:12,840 --> 00:23:14,440 MEL: We're very well. That's good. 454 00:23:14,480 --> 00:23:15,880 We're interested in how you two are doing. 455 00:23:15,920 --> 00:23:18,200 We're very well too. Yeah, we're very good. 456 00:23:18,240 --> 00:23:20,600 So, you've had homestays this week. 457 00:23:20,640 --> 00:23:22,720 Yeah. How did it go? 458 00:23:22,760 --> 00:23:25,040 Honestly, after, like, ten minutes at homestay, 459 00:23:25,080 --> 00:23:27,000 I was, like, "Oh, this is easy." 460 00:23:27,040 --> 00:23:30,480 We instantly, like, felt extremely comfortable 461 00:23:30,520 --> 00:23:33,920 and it pretty much just confirmed for me... 462 00:23:33,960 --> 00:23:36,800 Me, anyway... (LAUGHTER) 463 00:23:36,840 --> 00:23:40,040 ..that our relationship, like, will work on the outside. 464 00:23:40,080 --> 00:23:41,760 It felt good. 465 00:23:41,800 --> 00:23:46,160 And on the last day of our homestays I gave Rhi a key to my apartment. 466 00:23:46,200 --> 00:23:49,080 (MEL AND JEFF LAUGH) Yeah. 467 00:23:49,120 --> 00:23:50,480 Wow! 468 00:23:50,520 --> 00:23:51,800 OK. 469 00:23:51,840 --> 00:23:54,200 I love spending time with Rhi as much as I can, 470 00:23:54,240 --> 00:23:57,840 so once the experiment finishes... I don't really want that to change. 471 00:23:57,880 --> 00:24:00,040 Rhi, how did that feel? 472 00:24:00,080 --> 00:24:02,000 Yeah, it feels really good 473 00:24:02,040 --> 00:24:06,000 'cause it just confirmed that we are in such a strong spot 474 00:24:06,040 --> 00:24:08,880 and, like, my concerns about the outside of the experiment, 475 00:24:08,920 --> 00:24:11,040 they're pretty much gone. 476 00:24:14,160 --> 00:24:17,080 Have you guys had any arguments? Not one. 477 00:24:17,120 --> 00:24:18,120 No. Not one? 478 00:24:18,160 --> 00:24:19,840 Nothing. No. 479 00:24:19,880 --> 00:24:21,480 I've gotta say, it's pretty unusual 480 00:24:21,520 --> 00:24:23,480 we would have a couple sit here at the end of the experiment 481 00:24:23,520 --> 00:24:25,040 say "We've never had an argument." 482 00:24:25,080 --> 00:24:28,160 We just have really good communication. 483 00:24:28,200 --> 00:24:29,040 Yes. 484 00:24:29,080 --> 00:24:30,560 And we don't always try and be right. 485 00:24:30,600 --> 00:24:33,800 That's just the key, I feel, 486 00:24:33,840 --> 00:24:36,080 and I think that's what I've learnt from my past relationships. 487 00:24:36,120 --> 00:24:37,840 I used to be so hell-bent on being right. 488 00:24:37,880 --> 00:24:39,640 I love that. 489 00:24:39,680 --> 00:24:42,160 I love that you've taken that from previous relationships 490 00:24:42,200 --> 00:24:44,560 and you're applying that here. Yeah. Definitely. 491 00:24:44,600 --> 00:24:47,680 I think one thing this experiment's taught me 492 00:24:47,720 --> 00:24:50,560 is I had to grow as a partner 493 00:24:50,600 --> 00:24:53,880 and communication was one of my big flaws early on 494 00:24:53,920 --> 00:24:57,120 and you guys have obviously helped me with that, 495 00:24:57,160 --> 00:24:58,400 all the tasks have helped me with that, 496 00:24:58,440 --> 00:25:00,560 Rhi's definitely helped me with that. 497 00:25:00,600 --> 00:25:01,920 In turn, it's made me a better partner. 498 00:25:05,280 --> 00:25:06,600 Are you falling in love with him? 499 00:25:06,640 --> 00:25:09,600 (LAUGHS) I knew that question was coming. 500 00:25:11,440 --> 00:25:15,000 I'm on my way to falling in love. Mmm. 501 00:25:15,040 --> 00:25:17,160 Mm-hm. What about you, Jeff? 502 00:25:17,200 --> 00:25:19,680 (LAUGHS) 503 00:25:19,720 --> 00:25:21,280 (JAMIE LAUGHS) 504 00:25:21,320 --> 00:25:23,120 (RHI LAUGHS) Yeah. 505 00:25:24,680 --> 00:25:26,400 To be honest, I feel the exact same way. 506 00:25:26,440 --> 00:25:28,600 I couldn't be happier with where we're at 507 00:25:28,640 --> 00:25:30,920 and my feelings are very strong for Rhi 508 00:25:30,960 --> 00:25:33,280 and, yeah, it's definitely on that way. 509 00:25:33,320 --> 00:25:34,880 Yeah. 510 00:25:34,920 --> 00:25:38,040 And, look, this really makes sense, I think, 511 00:25:38,080 --> 00:25:40,680 given the whole journey the two of you have been on. 512 00:25:40,720 --> 00:25:44,240 You know, we've often made comments to you 513 00:25:44,280 --> 00:25:46,680 about the pace that you've taken things at. 514 00:25:46,720 --> 00:25:48,280 Yeah. There was a level of caution there. 515 00:25:48,320 --> 00:25:49,160 Yeah. 516 00:25:49,200 --> 00:25:51,840 You were both working through this relationship, I think, 517 00:25:51,880 --> 00:25:56,560 with a great deal of maturity and thought. 518 00:25:56,600 --> 00:26:01,080 I am grateful we did because, yeah, we could've just ended up 519 00:26:01,120 --> 00:26:03,680 in the same situation we did last year. 520 00:26:03,720 --> 00:26:06,520 It's certainly been a unique experience. 521 00:26:06,560 --> 00:26:09,640 I would never have picked in this in a million years. 522 00:26:09,680 --> 00:26:12,080 It's actually quite a cool story. Mmm. 523 00:26:12,120 --> 00:26:13,480 To tell your kids. That's it. 524 00:26:13,520 --> 00:26:15,520 (LAUGHS) I was about to say that, but... 525 00:26:15,560 --> 00:26:17,240 I know you were. ..I held my tongue. 526 00:26:17,280 --> 00:26:20,080 (LAUGHTER) 527 00:26:20,120 --> 00:26:21,800 Well, I think it's time we go to the decision. 528 00:26:21,840 --> 00:26:24,840 Mm-hm. We're gonna start with you, Jeff. 529 00:26:24,880 --> 00:26:28,080 Yeah, the journey's been amazing so far. 530 00:26:28,120 --> 00:26:31,240 I just want to thank you guys for all your help, 531 00:26:31,280 --> 00:26:33,080 getting our relationship 532 00:26:33,120 --> 00:26:35,240 and the advice you've given us to where it's at now. 533 00:26:35,280 --> 00:26:36,960 No secrets here, but I'm gonna write 'stay'. 534 00:26:37,000 --> 00:26:38,840 Wonderful. 535 00:26:38,880 --> 00:26:41,640 (APPLAUSE) 536 00:26:41,680 --> 00:26:44,400 Yeah, good decision. Thanks, Jeff. 537 00:26:44,440 --> 00:26:46,360 And to you, Rhi. 538 00:26:46,400 --> 00:26:48,160 I'm thankful you guys paired us together. 539 00:26:48,200 --> 00:26:51,680 And now you've got a key. And now I have a key. I know. 540 00:26:51,720 --> 00:26:53,680 Honestly, the experiment has been amazing. 541 00:26:53,720 --> 00:26:56,880 It's the best thing I've ever done. That is wonderful to hear. 542 00:26:56,920 --> 00:27:01,160 (LAUGHS) And, yeah, I hope that we can continue to flourish. 543 00:27:01,200 --> 00:27:04,520 (LAUGHS) Stay. Yeah. 544 00:27:04,560 --> 00:27:05,640 I love it. 545 00:27:05,680 --> 00:27:07,520 Thank you. (APPLAUSE) 546 00:27:09,080 --> 00:27:12,160 I couldn't be happier where our relationship's at at the moment. 547 00:27:12,200 --> 00:27:13,560 Oh, thank you. And... 548 00:27:13,600 --> 00:27:15,800 (LAUGHS) Thank you. ..yeah, I'm pretty happy right now. 549 00:27:15,840 --> 00:27:17,440 Aw. I'm glad. Thank you. 550 00:27:17,480 --> 00:27:19,960 (LAUGHS) Gorgeous. 551 00:27:20,000 --> 00:27:22,200 Alright, thank you so much. Good on you, guys. 552 00:27:22,240 --> 00:27:23,320 Thanks so much, guys. Thanks so much. 553 00:27:23,360 --> 00:27:25,240 Absolute pleasure. Thank you. (APPLAUSE) 554 00:27:28,560 --> 00:27:29,800 (LAUGHS) 555 00:27:29,840 --> 00:27:31,200 WOMAN: So cute. 556 00:27:31,240 --> 00:27:33,320 NARRATOR: Coming up... 557 00:27:33,360 --> 00:27:36,920 I want to know why you've been dishonest with Beth. 558 00:27:36,960 --> 00:27:38,840 TEEJAY: I don't think I've been dishonest with Beth. 559 00:27:38,880 --> 00:27:41,360 I've always said that we've had a connection issue 560 00:27:41,400 --> 00:27:44,960 and that in order for this to be a relationship on the outside, 561 00:27:45,000 --> 00:27:46,400 we'd need things to develop. 562 00:27:46,440 --> 00:27:48,600 ..Teejay finds himself in the hot seat. 563 00:27:48,640 --> 00:27:51,040 I think to myself, Teejay, 564 00:27:51,080 --> 00:27:55,080 is it just as simple as you're just not that into her? 565 00:27:55,120 --> 00:27:56,760 And later... 566 00:27:58,120 --> 00:28:02,760 You said to Jacqui that you don't really feel like 567 00:28:02,800 --> 00:28:05,320 she ever accepted you as a man. 568 00:28:05,360 --> 00:28:07,080 (LAUGHS) As a person. And I knew... 569 00:28:07,120 --> 00:28:09,600 ..Jacqui's reaction raises eyebrows. 570 00:28:10,960 --> 00:28:12,520 Hold on, Jacqui. Explain yourself. 571 00:28:12,560 --> 00:28:14,560 What the hell is so funny about this? 572 00:28:14,600 --> 00:28:19,200 Why are you laughing about something that is so, so important to him? 573 00:28:27,840 --> 00:28:29,800 Our next couple up on the couch... 574 00:28:33,840 --> 00:28:35,400 Beth and Teejay. 575 00:28:36,520 --> 00:28:39,080 (APPLAUSE) 576 00:28:40,840 --> 00:28:42,640 MEL: Hello. ALESSANDRA: Hello. 577 00:28:42,680 --> 00:28:44,000 Hi. 578 00:28:44,040 --> 00:28:45,280 Oh... 579 00:28:47,920 --> 00:28:49,440 How are you? 580 00:28:49,480 --> 00:28:52,120 Oh, alright, thank you. How are you? 581 00:28:52,160 --> 00:28:55,160 I meant, like, in general. You both... 582 00:28:56,320 --> 00:28:59,000 when you went to homestays. 583 00:28:59,040 --> 00:29:00,560 Um... 584 00:29:02,640 --> 00:29:04,440 Obviously homestays to me was a huge deal 585 00:29:04,480 --> 00:29:07,440 because I've never really brought a guy back to meet my family. 586 00:29:09,560 --> 00:29:12,280 But I think the timeline of events leading up to that 587 00:29:12,320 --> 00:29:13,440 did confuse me 588 00:29:13,480 --> 00:29:15,720 'cause obviously we say yes at the commitment ceremony, 589 00:29:15,760 --> 00:29:17,480 we have some great days together, 590 00:29:17,520 --> 00:29:19,520 he initiates sex, we sleep together again 591 00:29:19,560 --> 00:29:22,440 and then days after that, he can't answer a question 592 00:29:22,480 --> 00:29:25,680 about whether he wants to continue this on the outside or not. 593 00:29:25,720 --> 00:29:27,160 So, to me, I'm just, like... 594 00:29:27,200 --> 00:29:29,640 Yeah, it just really took me by surprise. Yeah. 595 00:29:30,920 --> 00:29:33,040 ALESSANDRA: Teejay... Mmm. 596 00:29:33,080 --> 00:29:36,920 ..I really want to know more about this conversation that happened 597 00:29:36,960 --> 00:29:38,040 on homestays. 598 00:29:39,520 --> 00:29:41,480 Tell me about that, please. 599 00:29:41,520 --> 00:29:44,520 Yeah, so, at homestays, 600 00:29:44,560 --> 00:29:46,960 yeah, I was met with, I guess, some questions. 601 00:29:47,000 --> 00:29:49,640 One of them was, "If the experiment ends tomorrow, 602 00:29:49,680 --> 00:29:51,320 "is my daughter gonna have her heart broken?" 603 00:29:52,760 --> 00:29:57,440 Another question was, are my intentions in the experiment... 604 00:29:57,480 --> 00:29:59,200 are they pure? 605 00:29:59,240 --> 00:30:02,240 And it's tough. 606 00:30:02,280 --> 00:30:03,640 I think it kind of pushed me into a... 607 00:30:03,680 --> 00:30:06,440 I was a little bit scared. 608 00:30:06,480 --> 00:30:10,640 I don't think I was ready for yes and no questions. 609 00:30:10,680 --> 00:30:15,240 The intention of whether or not you're, like, committed 610 00:30:15,280 --> 00:30:16,760 to working on this relationship, 611 00:30:16,800 --> 00:30:21,960 that's a very easy yes/no question at this point in this relationship. 612 00:30:23,600 --> 00:30:26,040 I know there's a connection issue between Beth and I 613 00:30:26,080 --> 00:30:29,320 and from where I was sitting, at that point, 614 00:30:29,360 --> 00:30:31,120 I was scared to give a yes or a no 615 00:30:31,160 --> 00:30:33,800 because in my mind, there are things missing for both of us. 616 00:30:33,840 --> 00:30:35,320 (SIGHS) 617 00:30:36,560 --> 00:30:38,960 You say there's a connection issue, 618 00:30:39,000 --> 00:30:42,360 but do you not think that she will take reintegrating sex 619 00:30:42,400 --> 00:30:43,560 into the relationship 620 00:30:43,600 --> 00:30:47,120 as a signal that you are feeling connected with her? 621 00:30:47,160 --> 00:30:50,120 I... I don't think I thought about it like that at the time. 622 00:30:50,160 --> 00:30:52,840 Obviously I wanted to have sex 623 00:30:52,880 --> 00:30:56,360 but Beth has mentioned that, you know, 624 00:30:56,400 --> 00:30:59,080 that side of the intimacy is something that she needs as well. 625 00:31:00,160 --> 00:31:03,440 I guess what I was thinking was that Beth has given me the green light 626 00:31:03,480 --> 00:31:06,120 and I want to satisfy that part of our relationship too 627 00:31:06,160 --> 00:31:07,680 to see if maybe that stems something else. 628 00:31:07,720 --> 00:31:09,720 Yes. 629 00:31:09,760 --> 00:31:13,680 But there's a big difference in the type of sexual connection 630 00:31:13,720 --> 00:31:14,840 that she was referring to. 631 00:31:16,520 --> 00:31:19,560 She was talking about feeling close and connected to you. 632 00:31:19,600 --> 00:31:21,920 Maybe I misinterpreted that, then. 633 00:31:23,760 --> 00:31:25,920 Beth, was there anything about Teejay's behaviour 634 00:31:25,960 --> 00:31:28,640 between the time that you guys were physically intimate again 635 00:31:28,680 --> 00:31:31,160 and having that conversation with your parents 636 00:31:31,200 --> 00:31:34,480 where you felt any difference in connection 637 00:31:34,520 --> 00:31:38,120 or were you feeling very connected through those days in between? 638 00:31:39,760 --> 00:31:40,960 There was nothing. 639 00:31:41,000 --> 00:31:43,200 There was definitely a disconnect from having sex 640 00:31:43,240 --> 00:31:45,720 to then the homestays. 641 00:31:45,760 --> 00:31:48,560 Like, we didn't kiss, we didn't really hug. 642 00:31:48,600 --> 00:31:51,480 I feel like there wasn't even much conversation. 643 00:31:56,440 --> 00:32:01,160 I don't know, it's... It's hard to kind of wrap my head around, 644 00:32:01,200 --> 00:32:04,760 like, how we've gone from how we had been in the beginning 645 00:32:04,800 --> 00:32:06,520 and having so much fun together 646 00:32:06,560 --> 00:32:07,840 and that banter 647 00:32:07,880 --> 00:32:10,120 and I loved that light energy that we have around each other 648 00:32:10,160 --> 00:32:12,280 to now being in this position. 649 00:32:12,320 --> 00:32:14,920 It's just... I don't know where it went wrong 650 00:32:14,960 --> 00:32:17,760 because to me it feels like you've kind of flipped a switch 651 00:32:17,800 --> 00:32:20,920 and I'm kind of like trying to look back on the last few weeks 652 00:32:20,960 --> 00:32:25,960 and trying to, like, piece together where it stopped being, I guess, 653 00:32:26,000 --> 00:32:28,360 enjoyable for you, genuine... I don't know. 654 00:32:28,400 --> 00:32:31,080 I don't not enjoy my time with you. That's the thing. 655 00:32:31,120 --> 00:32:32,720 And that's the thing. 656 00:32:32,760 --> 00:32:35,800 Like, I'm well aware the deep connection hasn't got there. 657 00:32:35,840 --> 00:32:38,920 I guess for me, I'm still willing to, like, explore that, 658 00:32:38,960 --> 00:32:39,920 you know... 659 00:32:39,960 --> 00:32:41,360 I think it's... Yeah. 660 00:32:41,400 --> 00:32:45,400 ..very confusing because of the mixed signals and mixed communications 661 00:32:45,440 --> 00:32:46,600 that clearly have been going on. 662 00:32:48,280 --> 00:32:51,280 Which is the truth in terms of what you want 663 00:32:51,320 --> 00:32:53,560 or don't want out of a relationship with Beth, 664 00:32:53,600 --> 00:32:56,200 because she's been clear and consistent every single time. 665 00:32:56,240 --> 00:32:57,280 You have not... 666 00:32:58,760 --> 00:33:03,320 especially with the reintegrating sex in the last week. 667 00:33:03,360 --> 00:33:06,920 I want to know why you've been dishonest with Beth. 668 00:33:06,960 --> 00:33:09,400 I don't think I've been dishonest with Beth. 669 00:33:09,440 --> 00:33:11,680 I've always said that we've had a connection issue 670 00:33:11,720 --> 00:33:14,800 and that in order for this to be a relationship on the outside, 671 00:33:14,840 --> 00:33:16,560 we'd need things to develop. 672 00:33:16,600 --> 00:33:20,760 From where I'm looking at, the two of you, 673 00:33:20,800 --> 00:33:22,520 it's always coming from you, Teejay. 674 00:33:23,800 --> 00:33:25,760 Beth has a difficulty with the connection 675 00:33:25,800 --> 00:33:27,880 because you're not wanting to connect with her. 676 00:33:28,880 --> 00:33:31,920 If you wanted to connect with her, I can assure you, 677 00:33:31,960 --> 00:33:33,680 correct me if I'm wrong, 678 00:33:33,720 --> 00:33:36,200 she would have no problem with connection, Teejay. 679 00:33:38,000 --> 00:33:40,000 JOHN: So, for you, Teejay, 680 00:33:40,040 --> 00:33:43,400 where are your feelings at currently when it comes to Beth? 681 00:33:47,400 --> 00:33:49,840 I think we've had an incredible connection from the start. 682 00:33:49,880 --> 00:33:53,160 You know, I think everyone in experiment can agree that, 683 00:33:53,200 --> 00:33:55,240 you know, the friendship and the banter that we've developed 684 00:33:55,280 --> 00:33:56,960 is contagious. 685 00:33:57,000 --> 00:33:59,360 Like, it is. It's an incredible thing to be around. 686 00:33:59,400 --> 00:34:03,720 And to connect with someone so fast was really nice on that level. 687 00:34:05,080 --> 00:34:08,080 But I don't think the romantic connection is growing for me. 688 00:34:08,120 --> 00:34:09,840 That's just where I'm at right now. 689 00:34:09,880 --> 00:34:12,800 I just don't feel that side of our connection building. 690 00:34:15,200 --> 00:34:17,440 Why do you think that is, Teejay? Why is it not growing? 691 00:34:18,440 --> 00:34:20,880 I'm not sure if I can put my finger on it. 692 00:34:20,920 --> 00:34:22,000 (LAUGHS) 693 00:34:23,320 --> 00:34:25,360 I think to myself, Teejay, 694 00:34:25,400 --> 00:34:30,560 is it just really as simple as you're just not that into her? 695 00:34:30,600 --> 00:34:33,440 (DRAMATIC MUSIC) 696 00:34:46,760 --> 00:34:48,880 I think to myself, Teejay, 697 00:34:48,920 --> 00:34:54,320 is it just really as simple as you're just not that into her? 698 00:34:58,680 --> 00:35:01,080 Are you asking me that question now? Yeah. 699 00:35:03,280 --> 00:35:05,720 I don't think it's as simple as that, though. 700 00:35:06,960 --> 00:35:09,760 Do you think it can change for you, Teejay? 701 00:35:11,840 --> 00:35:13,880 I mean, there's not a lot of time left. 702 00:35:13,920 --> 00:35:15,160 Yeah. 703 00:35:15,200 --> 00:35:17,920 In the experiment, I... 704 00:35:17,960 --> 00:35:19,720 I don't think I've strayed away 705 00:35:19,760 --> 00:35:21,480 from where I've stood in this relationship 706 00:35:21,520 --> 00:35:22,920 and where I think we were 707 00:35:22,960 --> 00:35:27,280 and right now, I don't think there could be anything drastic 708 00:35:27,320 --> 00:35:30,080 to change for me to grow romantic feelings over the next two weeks. 709 00:35:30,120 --> 00:35:31,840 I really don't. 710 00:35:36,320 --> 00:35:38,400 I probably could've helped some things 711 00:35:38,440 --> 00:35:40,880 to help my romantic connection 712 00:35:40,920 --> 00:35:42,320 or my romantic emotion grow towards you 713 00:35:42,360 --> 00:35:43,960 but it's not growing for me at the moment 714 00:35:44,000 --> 00:35:45,840 and I don't want to lie to you about how I'm feeling. 715 00:35:45,880 --> 00:35:48,120 I don't want to string that along for you. 716 00:35:48,160 --> 00:35:51,120 Like, I would hate that. I would hate myself for that. 717 00:35:53,680 --> 00:35:57,440 I think it's a good time right now to go to the decision. 718 00:35:59,520 --> 00:36:01,840 Stay or leave? Let's go with you first... 719 00:36:05,040 --> 00:36:06,160 Beth. 720 00:36:06,200 --> 00:36:09,640 Well, obviously the position we're in at the moment... 721 00:36:11,280 --> 00:36:13,000 yeah, it doesn't feel nice. 722 00:36:13,040 --> 00:36:16,040 It doesn't feel like it usually has in the past... 723 00:36:17,680 --> 00:36:19,960 and, yeah, it's been a really hard decision to make... 724 00:36:22,480 --> 00:36:26,920 but I'm not the kind of partner that walks away from something, 725 00:36:26,960 --> 00:36:30,160 so I wrote 'stay'. 726 00:36:30,200 --> 00:36:32,280 Ah. Yep. 727 00:36:34,000 --> 00:36:36,440 She's taking a massive risk. 728 00:36:38,840 --> 00:36:41,160 Teejay, stay or leave? 729 00:36:42,560 --> 00:36:44,200 Um... 730 00:36:44,240 --> 00:36:46,680 This decision was definitely the hardest one for me 731 00:36:46,720 --> 00:36:52,880 in that I wanted to, I guess, give myself time and space 732 00:36:52,920 --> 00:36:54,560 to feel how I was feeling and... 733 00:36:59,080 --> 00:37:00,760 and I wrote... 734 00:37:02,920 --> 00:37:04,320 'leave'. 735 00:37:04,360 --> 00:37:05,680 Mmm. 736 00:37:06,880 --> 00:37:08,280 Mmm. 737 00:37:09,880 --> 00:37:12,520 (DRAMATIC MUSIC) 738 00:37:16,280 --> 00:37:19,800 I really want to know how you feel, Beth, in this moment. 739 00:37:19,840 --> 00:37:23,040 How I feel? From the heart. 740 00:37:23,080 --> 00:37:29,360 It does feel crap knowing that the person that I want to work with 741 00:37:29,400 --> 00:37:31,680 and invest in doesn't feel the same 742 00:37:31,720 --> 00:37:34,800 and I think for me it's kind of frustrating that now I'm here 743 00:37:34,840 --> 00:37:37,760 and I'm the person that I wanted to be 744 00:37:37,800 --> 00:37:39,400 and you've wanted that vulnerability, 745 00:37:39,440 --> 00:37:42,480 now that I'm here and ready to give it, he's checked out. 746 00:37:44,040 --> 00:37:46,360 ALESSANDRA: What do you say that, Teejay? 747 00:37:47,600 --> 00:37:48,880 To which part, sorry? 748 00:37:50,800 --> 00:37:52,120 The whole thing, what she just said. 749 00:37:52,160 --> 00:37:54,520 Were you listening? Yeah, I was listening. 750 00:37:55,720 --> 00:37:58,760 I guess it's the situation that we're in at the moment. 751 00:37:58,800 --> 00:38:01,080 And I've been honest with the way that I'm feeling. 752 00:38:01,120 --> 00:38:02,600 Yeah. 753 00:38:02,640 --> 00:38:05,200 Yeah, it's hard. 754 00:38:08,760 --> 00:38:09,800 OK. 755 00:38:09,840 --> 00:38:11,520 As you both know, 756 00:38:11,560 --> 00:38:14,320 when one person in the experiment writes 'leave' 757 00:38:14,360 --> 00:38:16,360 and the other person says 'stay', 758 00:38:16,400 --> 00:38:19,040 you must stay for another week 759 00:38:19,080 --> 00:38:21,080 and it's gonna be very different 760 00:38:21,120 --> 00:38:23,360 from the past weeks that you've been dealing with. 761 00:38:23,400 --> 00:38:25,560 This will lead straight to final vows. 762 00:38:26,640 --> 00:38:28,720 The stakes are much higher here 763 00:38:28,760 --> 00:38:30,160 and from what I'm seeing, 764 00:38:30,200 --> 00:38:33,160 there is a complete disconnect between you guys, 765 00:38:33,200 --> 00:38:37,760 so I really encourage you and urge you to have conversations 766 00:38:37,800 --> 00:38:41,400 and actions that perhaps might lead to a better outcome. 767 00:38:41,440 --> 00:38:43,400 Yep. Yep. 768 00:38:43,440 --> 00:38:47,760 JOHN: Teejay, just be as authentic and as raw as you can be... 769 00:38:49,080 --> 00:38:50,600 because I tell you what's worse... 770 00:38:52,200 --> 00:38:55,480 having this limbo and uncertainty which goes on and on. 771 00:38:57,240 --> 00:38:59,320 That's soul-destroying. 772 00:38:59,360 --> 00:39:01,280 When you know what's going on, 773 00:39:01,320 --> 00:39:03,720 you can make the meaning of it and move forward, 774 00:39:03,760 --> 00:39:06,640 because at the moment, it's lack of accountability, 775 00:39:06,680 --> 00:39:08,040 it's a lack of insight. 776 00:39:08,080 --> 00:39:10,960 Yep. It's frustrating. 777 00:39:11,000 --> 00:39:14,760 We don't need politicians. 778 00:39:16,160 --> 00:39:18,240 OK. 779 00:39:18,280 --> 00:39:20,720 The time for word salad is over. 780 00:39:22,800 --> 00:39:24,400 No more beating around the bush. 781 00:39:26,600 --> 00:39:28,400 ALESSANDRA: You can go back to... Thank you. 782 00:39:28,440 --> 00:39:30,200 Thanks, guys. MEL: Thank you both. 783 00:39:30,240 --> 00:39:31,280 JOHN: Good luck, you two. Thank you. 784 00:39:31,320 --> 00:39:32,840 (APPLAUSE) JAMIE: Well done, darlin'. 785 00:39:32,880 --> 00:39:36,040 (DRAMATIC MUSIC) 786 00:39:39,640 --> 00:39:41,960 JOHN: Our next couple up on the couch... 787 00:39:42,000 --> 00:39:44,000 (DRAMATIC MUSIC) 788 00:39:48,080 --> 00:39:49,480 ..Adrian and Awhina. 789 00:39:49,520 --> 00:39:51,400 (APPLAUSE) 790 00:39:52,920 --> 00:39:55,200 MEL: Hello. ADRIAN: Hey, how you going? 791 00:39:55,240 --> 00:39:57,040 How you going? AWHINA: Hi. 792 00:39:57,080 --> 00:40:01,240 JOHN: Well, let's get straight into it. How were homestays? 793 00:40:01,280 --> 00:40:03,480 I had a great time. Really? 794 00:40:03,520 --> 00:40:05,000 Yeah. I did. 795 00:40:05,040 --> 00:40:06,880 I'm surprised, 'cause I was thinking 796 00:40:06,920 --> 00:40:09,560 that you would be confronted with her sister. 797 00:40:09,600 --> 00:40:12,560 My beautiful sister? He was. And they had a great time. 798 00:40:14,320 --> 00:40:15,600 The last time Adrian met Cleo, 799 00:40:15,640 --> 00:40:17,480 it was under such different circumstances. 800 00:40:17,520 --> 00:40:19,960 He and I weren't connecting. We were in a really terrible place. 801 00:40:20,000 --> 00:40:22,880 And my twin sister came in on my defence. 802 00:40:22,920 --> 00:40:24,080 She'd seen how I was hurting. 803 00:40:24,120 --> 00:40:26,720 You know, it's been a few weeks since I'd seen her last. 804 00:40:26,760 --> 00:40:28,920 She hasn't had the opportunity to see Adrian and I 805 00:40:28,960 --> 00:40:30,120 when we do connect. 806 00:40:30,160 --> 00:40:32,760 I think we both came into that lunch open-minded 807 00:40:32,800 --> 00:40:37,960 and, you know, it was about me and Awhina, not about me and Cleo. 808 00:40:38,000 --> 00:40:39,080 And we decided to move on. 809 00:40:39,120 --> 00:40:41,760 Also, my mum was present and, you know, 810 00:40:41,800 --> 00:40:44,360 I would hate to get into a disagreement in front of my mum. 811 00:40:44,400 --> 00:40:46,520 So they saw you as a different couple 812 00:40:46,560 --> 00:40:48,400 but also they were other individuals there, 813 00:40:48,440 --> 00:40:50,000 which meant the whole experience was different. 814 00:40:50,040 --> 00:40:51,960 So different. Yeah, 100%. 815 00:40:52,000 --> 00:40:55,040 Well, look, these homestays are designed 816 00:40:55,080 --> 00:40:59,360 to get you to have a glimpse into your partner's world, 817 00:40:59,400 --> 00:41:01,160 see whether you can fit. 818 00:41:03,840 --> 00:41:05,640 Now, you two live in different states. 819 00:41:07,040 --> 00:41:11,120 You have a child, Awhina, so, what about this distance? 820 00:41:12,200 --> 00:41:14,840 For me, right now, I have obligations in Sydney 821 00:41:14,880 --> 00:41:18,160 and I don't plan on moving anywhere in the next year or two. 822 00:41:18,200 --> 00:41:20,440 I have, you know, a business in Sydney 823 00:41:20,480 --> 00:41:22,560 and my family's in Sydney and Melbourne. 824 00:41:22,600 --> 00:41:23,920 Perth's a little bit far away. 825 00:41:25,680 --> 00:41:27,680 And, you know, I've voiced this to her. 826 00:41:27,720 --> 00:41:30,320 We are in a bit of a pickle. 827 00:41:30,360 --> 00:41:33,640 So, you've got that understanding that long distance, 828 00:41:33,680 --> 00:41:38,000 with a little bit of a question mark over an end date, 829 00:41:38,040 --> 00:41:41,720 is something that you're very aware of as a couple. 830 00:41:41,760 --> 00:41:44,560 It's not going away. 831 00:41:44,600 --> 00:41:46,800 I'm curious as to how that landed for you, Awhina. 832 00:41:46,840 --> 00:41:51,720 I mean, I see myself in Perth. I love my soil, I love my community. 833 00:41:51,760 --> 00:41:54,160 My child, everything is in Perth for me. 834 00:41:54,200 --> 00:41:57,160 And the language Adrian's used in his future 835 00:41:57,200 --> 00:41:59,400 has been very much business-orientated, 836 00:41:59,440 --> 00:42:01,600 in career goals, in Sydney. 837 00:42:01,640 --> 00:42:05,880 So it wasn't like I was blindsided when he said, you know, 838 00:42:05,920 --> 00:42:07,840 "Right now I don't see my future in Perth." 839 00:42:07,880 --> 00:42:09,960 Mmm. Mmm. 840 00:42:10,000 --> 00:42:12,720 But we have been working on our relationship 841 00:42:12,760 --> 00:42:13,960 and the connection's there. 842 00:42:15,680 --> 00:42:21,440 Do you think that it's going to be easier or harder 843 00:42:21,480 --> 00:42:24,720 to grow your relationship out in the real world 844 00:42:24,760 --> 00:42:28,400 if you decide to take it there in a long-distance relationship? 845 00:42:28,440 --> 00:42:31,640 For me, right now, in my life, no, I don't think it'll be harder. 846 00:42:31,680 --> 00:42:33,280 I've done it before when I was younger, 847 00:42:33,320 --> 00:42:35,080 so I don't have an issue with it, no. 848 00:42:35,120 --> 00:42:37,800 What about you, Awhina? 849 00:42:37,840 --> 00:42:40,240 A big part of my love language is physical touch. 850 00:42:40,280 --> 00:42:43,120 I get a lot of reassurance from cuddles, kisses. 851 00:42:43,160 --> 00:42:44,600 Like, that's just me. 852 00:42:44,640 --> 00:42:47,600 So, yeah, it probably will feel harder 853 00:42:47,640 --> 00:42:49,960 'cause I'm not sure if I'm gonna feel disconnected or not. 854 00:42:51,600 --> 00:42:54,280 Have you actually had those conversations? 855 00:42:54,320 --> 00:42:56,840 No. No. No, we haven't. 856 00:42:56,880 --> 00:43:00,160 I think we both just know that, like, we're gonna be fine with it 857 00:43:00,200 --> 00:43:03,640 and, yes, we haven't had that conversation to be long distance 858 00:43:03,680 --> 00:43:05,080 but I will see her in the next four weeks. 859 00:43:05,120 --> 00:43:08,760 ALESSANDRA: But to actually have a long-distance relationship, 860 00:43:08,800 --> 00:43:10,960 you need to know what are the parameters gonna be, 861 00:43:11,000 --> 00:43:14,600 what time is spent with him, 862 00:43:14,640 --> 00:43:18,080 how does Adrian become integrated with your child, 863 00:43:18,120 --> 00:43:21,920 so there are some quite complicated, real-life issues 864 00:43:21,960 --> 00:43:23,640 that would need to be sorted out 865 00:43:23,680 --> 00:43:25,880 and for me, sitting here right now, 866 00:43:25,920 --> 00:43:29,640 it's a bit alarming that that conversation wasn't had. 867 00:43:29,680 --> 00:43:32,160 I totally understand 868 00:43:32,200 --> 00:43:34,040 we should be having these hard-hitting conversations, 869 00:43:34,080 --> 00:43:37,680 but I really, really enjoy having Adrian in my orbit again. 870 00:43:37,720 --> 00:43:40,760 I don't want to put my walls back up just yet. I'm not ready to. 871 00:43:40,800 --> 00:43:43,720 I'm not suggesting you put your walls back up. 872 00:43:43,760 --> 00:43:46,200 I'm suggesting you keep them down and have tough conversations 873 00:43:46,240 --> 00:43:50,200 and get to agreements on how this could move forward 874 00:43:50,240 --> 00:43:51,640 so that you can continue having your walls down 875 00:43:51,680 --> 00:43:53,680 and building on the relationship. 876 00:43:56,560 --> 00:43:59,680 JOHN: Adrian, I wanted to follow up something. 877 00:43:59,720 --> 00:44:02,720 You said at the start of the experiment 878 00:44:02,760 --> 00:44:08,040 that if you were to fall in love and move, essentially, 879 00:44:08,080 --> 00:44:10,000 it would have to be for the right person. 880 00:44:10,040 --> 00:44:11,480 Yep. 881 00:44:11,520 --> 00:44:15,360 So, do you think Awhina could be that right person for you... 882 00:44:16,960 --> 00:44:18,880 potentially? 883 00:44:18,920 --> 00:44:20,200 Um... 884 00:44:23,480 --> 00:44:26,480 (TENSE MUSIC) 885 00:44:26,520 --> 00:44:28,120 Yeah, I mean... (LAUGHS) 886 00:44:28,160 --> 00:44:29,520 No, I'm thinking about it. 887 00:44:29,560 --> 00:44:32,000 I'm thinking about how I'm gonna answer it. 888 00:44:34,160 --> 00:44:35,000 Um... 889 00:44:35,040 --> 00:44:36,840 (DRAMATIC MUSIC) 890 00:44:41,920 --> 00:44:44,440 (DRAMATIC MUSIC) 891 00:44:46,240 --> 00:44:50,800 So, do you think Awhina could be that right person for you, 892 00:44:50,840 --> 00:44:52,960 potentially? 893 00:44:53,000 --> 00:44:54,360 Um... 894 00:44:55,800 --> 00:44:59,320 (DRAMATIC MUSIC) 895 00:44:59,360 --> 00:45:00,640 Yeah, I mean... (LAUGHS) 896 00:45:00,680 --> 00:45:02,160 No, I'm thinking about it. 897 00:45:02,200 --> 00:45:04,480 I'm thinking about how I'm gonna answer it. 898 00:45:06,640 --> 00:45:07,520 Um... 899 00:45:07,560 --> 00:45:09,280 (TENSE MUSIC) 900 00:45:09,320 --> 00:45:10,520 Yeah, I do. 901 00:45:10,560 --> 00:45:12,800 It'll have to be when I'm ready. 902 00:45:14,480 --> 00:45:16,720 Like, I'm not in love right now 903 00:45:16,760 --> 00:45:20,080 but I definitely know I have strong feelings for Awhina 904 00:45:20,120 --> 00:45:23,400 and I guess I've been to Perth, I know what her life is like 905 00:45:23,440 --> 00:45:26,400 and I can sort of see myself being over there not right now 906 00:45:26,440 --> 00:45:29,440 but it's a conversation we have to have this week 907 00:45:29,480 --> 00:45:30,840 before we get to the final vows. 908 00:45:30,880 --> 00:45:35,560 So if I didn't think there was any future, I wouldn't be here. 909 00:45:35,600 --> 00:45:37,840 Adrian, I remember when we first matched you 910 00:45:37,880 --> 00:45:40,280 and you sat on that couch and you were, like, 911 00:45:40,320 --> 00:45:44,880 "I don't know how I'm gonna work with a solo mum." 912 00:45:44,920 --> 00:45:45,720 Yeah. 913 00:45:45,760 --> 00:45:46,880 "Even though there's a chemistry there. 914 00:45:46,920 --> 00:45:48,480 "Can I even get past the first week?" 915 00:45:48,520 --> 00:45:51,120 And here you are now 916 00:45:51,160 --> 00:45:56,960 and you're talking to us about long-distance relationships. 917 00:46:03,240 --> 00:46:06,080 And I think because I was so open and honest and so was she 918 00:46:06,120 --> 00:46:08,280 that we can sit here comfortable on the couch right now, 919 00:46:08,320 --> 00:46:09,520 looking into the future. 920 00:46:11,160 --> 00:46:15,280 Well, it's now time to get to the decision 921 00:46:15,320 --> 00:46:18,520 and we're gonna start with you first, Awhina. 922 00:46:18,560 --> 00:46:19,960 Oh. 923 00:46:20,000 --> 00:46:21,960 I think everyone knows what I wrote, 924 00:46:22,000 --> 00:46:24,160 so I'm not gonna get into a big dialogue. 925 00:46:25,920 --> 00:46:26,920 Mm-hm. MEL: Lovely. 926 00:46:26,960 --> 00:46:27,960 Nice work. Mmm. 927 00:46:28,000 --> 00:46:30,800 Stay. Strong. (APPLAUSE) 928 00:46:30,840 --> 00:46:31,960 And Adrian? 929 00:46:34,200 --> 00:46:35,440 It's stay. 930 00:46:36,760 --> 00:46:38,200 (APPLAUSE) 931 00:46:38,240 --> 00:46:41,200 Well, you're in a good place 932 00:46:41,240 --> 00:46:45,360 but there are particular specifics around tough questions 933 00:46:45,400 --> 00:46:47,960 that you need to have that you haven't had yet. 934 00:46:48,000 --> 00:46:49,920 You're heading into final vows. 935 00:46:49,960 --> 00:46:51,880 Get all the information you need from one another 936 00:46:51,920 --> 00:46:53,920 to make an accurate decision 937 00:46:53,960 --> 00:46:56,240 about what you then decide to do in the future. 938 00:46:56,280 --> 00:46:59,440 But for now, well done, guys. Go back to the group. 939 00:46:59,480 --> 00:47:00,720 Thank you, guys. Thanks, everyone. 940 00:47:00,760 --> 00:47:03,680 (APPLAUSE) MEL: Thanks, guys. 941 00:47:06,200 --> 00:47:08,320 (LAUGHS) 942 00:47:11,520 --> 00:47:13,200 Our next couple up... 943 00:47:13,240 --> 00:47:15,520 (TENSE MUSIC) 944 00:47:15,560 --> 00:47:17,080 ..Carina and Paul. 945 00:47:17,120 --> 00:47:20,800 (APPLAUSE) (BRIGHT MUSIC PLAYS) 946 00:47:22,000 --> 00:47:23,720 PAUL: Hello, guys. How are you? MEL: Hello. 947 00:47:23,760 --> 00:47:25,080 JOHN: Very good. Very good. 948 00:47:25,120 --> 00:47:29,320 Excited to unpack the homestays. Me too. (LAUGHS) 949 00:47:29,360 --> 00:47:33,000 The homestay, honestly, was absolutely beautiful. 950 00:47:33,040 --> 00:47:35,840 I had the most amazing time. 951 00:47:35,880 --> 00:47:37,800 Carina has such a beautiful family 952 00:47:37,840 --> 00:47:42,840 and I just felt so welcomed and so integrated so quickly. 953 00:47:42,880 --> 00:47:43,840 Mmm. 954 00:47:43,880 --> 00:47:45,520 Carina, what sort of impression did he make? 955 00:47:45,560 --> 00:47:47,480 A really good one. (LAUGHS) 956 00:47:49,040 --> 00:47:51,600 Everyone was, yeah, just getting along really well 957 00:47:51,640 --> 00:47:53,000 and he was fitting right in. 958 00:47:53,040 --> 00:47:56,600 He just felt like he was one of us. It was really nice. 959 00:47:56,640 --> 00:47:59,720 Paul, what was the highlight for you? 960 00:47:59,760 --> 00:48:02,480 At the end of the lunch, Carina said, 961 00:48:02,520 --> 00:48:04,760 "So, Mum, what's the secret..." Mmm. 962 00:48:04,800 --> 00:48:06,040 .."for a healthy relationship?" Oooh. 963 00:48:06,080 --> 00:48:07,960 And then her mum said, 964 00:48:08,000 --> 00:48:09,960 "Look, obviously communication is obviously, like, number one. 965 00:48:12,000 --> 00:48:15,160 "And also forgiveness," she said. Always moving forward... 966 00:48:15,200 --> 00:48:16,320 Not holding grudges. 967 00:48:16,360 --> 00:48:18,640 Not holding onto any grudges for too long. 968 00:48:18,680 --> 00:48:23,800 That sounds like for you two it had a huge positive impact. 969 00:48:23,840 --> 00:48:25,240 It did. 970 00:48:25,280 --> 00:48:28,320 The next, you know, logical step is to introduce her to my parents. 971 00:48:28,360 --> 00:48:30,240 (LAUGHS) 972 00:48:30,280 --> 00:48:33,040 So, where are your feelings currently at, Paul? 973 00:48:33,080 --> 00:48:36,280 I have some very, very, very, very, very strong feelings for Carina. 974 00:48:36,320 --> 00:48:39,240 Like, now, after homestay, I can potentially see myself, 975 00:48:39,280 --> 00:48:41,240 you know, falling in love with Carina, for sure. 976 00:48:41,280 --> 00:48:42,640 Mmm. 977 00:48:42,680 --> 00:48:43,840 We can see that. 978 00:48:43,880 --> 00:48:45,920 (LAUGHTER) 979 00:48:45,960 --> 00:48:49,160 Well, what about your feelings for Paul, Carina? 980 00:48:49,200 --> 00:48:51,280 They're definitely strong. 981 00:48:51,320 --> 00:48:54,840 I would say, like, I've got loads of love for him 982 00:48:54,880 --> 00:48:58,240 but still getting to the point of being in love. 983 00:48:58,280 --> 00:49:00,480 Mmm. Yeah. 984 00:49:00,520 --> 00:49:02,600 I've got blush on but I'm blushing! (LAUGHS) 985 00:49:02,640 --> 00:49:04,920 I'm definitely blushing. (LAUGHS) 986 00:49:04,960 --> 00:49:06,920 Gee, it's nice to see you two on the couch like that. 987 00:49:06,960 --> 00:49:08,360 Yeah. Mmm. 988 00:49:08,400 --> 00:49:11,840 'Cause you know what, you've been through, during this experiment... 989 00:49:11,880 --> 00:49:14,320 There's been some highs... Bloody hell. 990 00:49:14,360 --> 00:49:15,440 ..and some lows... COUPLE: Yeah. 991 00:49:15,480 --> 00:49:18,000 ..and forgiveness has been a key part of your relationship journey. 992 00:49:18,040 --> 00:49:21,240 Yep. That's right. It's been very crucial. 993 00:49:21,280 --> 00:49:23,560 Which is why when her mum said that, it just resonated so much. 994 00:49:26,120 --> 00:49:29,920 How much of the future have you discussed together? 995 00:49:29,960 --> 00:49:33,440 Probably religion. Definitely spoken about that. 996 00:49:33,480 --> 00:49:38,360 That's been a very big one 'cause I am raised Catholic... 997 00:49:38,400 --> 00:49:40,800 Right. ..and he definitely... 998 00:49:40,840 --> 00:49:43,000 you know, is open to... Yeah. 999 00:49:43,040 --> 00:49:48,360 ..coming to church and encountering all the different events and... 1000 00:49:48,400 --> 00:49:49,400 Uh-huh. 1001 00:49:49,440 --> 00:49:51,600 ..you know, how will we raise a family in the future, 1002 00:49:51,640 --> 00:49:55,760 'cause obviously I want my children to be baptised 1003 00:49:55,800 --> 00:49:58,600 and he's very open to that. 1004 00:49:58,640 --> 00:50:00,160 Oh, that's a big thing. Yeah. 1005 00:50:00,200 --> 00:50:01,560 Yeah. Yeah. 1006 00:50:01,600 --> 00:50:03,760 So there's been future talk between the two of you? 1007 00:50:03,800 --> 00:50:05,520 Yep. The hard questions... 1008 00:50:05,560 --> 00:50:06,600 Yeah, absolutely. ..as well. 1009 00:50:06,640 --> 00:50:07,760 Yeah. 1010 00:50:07,800 --> 00:50:13,080 Alright, well, what we're gonna do now is go to the decision. 1011 00:50:13,120 --> 00:50:14,160 Mmm. 1012 00:50:14,200 --> 00:50:17,280 And we're gonna start with you, Carina. 1013 00:50:17,320 --> 00:50:19,960 Are you gonna stay or leave? 1014 00:50:20,000 --> 00:50:22,120 Look, you are such a beautiful human... 1015 00:50:22,160 --> 00:50:23,360 Aw. 1016 00:50:23,400 --> 00:50:26,320 ..and you're so, like... how you treat everyone around you, 1017 00:50:26,360 --> 00:50:30,320 it's just, like, so inspiring and that's all I could ever ask for. 1018 00:50:30,360 --> 00:50:31,680 (LAUGHS) So I'm gonna stay. 1019 00:50:31,720 --> 00:50:34,080 (LAUGHS) 1020 00:50:34,120 --> 00:50:35,960 That's fabulous. 1021 00:50:36,000 --> 00:50:38,040 Paul, what have you got for us? 1022 00:50:38,080 --> 00:50:40,960 You've been so patient, like, in this relationship. 1023 00:50:41,000 --> 00:50:43,160 Like, we've gone through some really difficult times 1024 00:50:43,200 --> 00:50:45,800 and you've always, you know, decided to, you know, forgive 1025 00:50:45,840 --> 00:50:47,080 and we've always moved forward 1026 00:50:47,120 --> 00:50:49,640 and just your kindness is just contagious. 1027 00:50:49,680 --> 00:50:53,400 So, yeah, so if you're ready to, you know, 1028 00:50:53,440 --> 00:50:54,960 be part of a French family, then... 1029 00:50:55,000 --> 00:50:56,720 (LAUGHTER) ..we'll stay. 1030 00:50:56,760 --> 00:50:58,720 Oh-ho-ho. (LAUGHS) 1031 00:50:58,760 --> 00:51:01,240 (APPLAUSE) 1032 00:51:01,280 --> 00:51:02,400 (LAUGHS) 1033 00:51:03,680 --> 00:51:05,880 It's called a French kiss. (LAUGHTER) 1034 00:51:05,920 --> 00:51:07,560 You know, for many couples, 1035 00:51:07,600 --> 00:51:10,760 the homestays can be overwhelming and daunting 1036 00:51:10,800 --> 00:51:13,440 and will even break some up, 1037 00:51:13,480 --> 00:51:14,640 but for you two, 1038 00:51:14,680 --> 00:51:17,960 it's had this reassuring impact and effect on you both. 1039 00:51:18,000 --> 00:51:21,680 We really look forward to seeing what comes now 1040 00:51:21,720 --> 00:51:23,960 as a result of all you've been through. 1041 00:51:24,000 --> 00:51:25,600 You can go back to the group, but well done. 1042 00:51:25,640 --> 00:51:27,880 Thank you. Thank you, guys. Thank you so much. 1043 00:51:27,920 --> 00:51:29,480 Thank you for all of your advice and help. 1044 00:51:29,520 --> 00:51:30,880 (LAUGHS) 1045 00:51:33,840 --> 00:51:35,400 WOMAN: Well done, guys. 1046 00:51:35,440 --> 00:51:37,000 Yeah. 1047 00:51:37,040 --> 00:51:38,440 NARRATOR: Up next... 1048 00:51:38,480 --> 00:51:42,200 Jacqui, do you see Ryan as a project that needs to be worked on? 1049 00:51:42,240 --> 00:51:43,720 Absolutely not. Changed? 1050 00:51:43,760 --> 00:51:44,640 No. Modified? 1051 00:51:44,680 --> 00:51:45,680 It feels that way. No. 1052 00:51:45,720 --> 00:51:46,960 It feels that way. Absolutely not. 1053 00:51:47,000 --> 00:51:49,000 ..Ryan's reached his limit. 1054 00:51:49,040 --> 00:51:51,400 I feel like I haven't had a safe space. 1055 00:51:51,440 --> 00:51:54,560 Who I am, my identity, it doesn't meet your approval 1056 00:51:54,600 --> 00:51:56,360 and I just feel drained, Jacqui. 1057 00:51:56,400 --> 00:52:00,600 Could this be the couple's final night in the experiment? 1058 00:52:00,640 --> 00:52:04,160 Yeah, I think, for me, like, 1059 00:52:04,200 --> 00:52:06,600 there's certain behaviour that I don't tolerate. 1060 00:52:06,640 --> 00:52:09,200 (DRAMATIC MUSIC) 1061 00:52:16,160 --> 00:52:18,400 JOHN: Our last couple up on the couch... 1062 00:52:20,400 --> 00:52:21,280 Jacqui and Ryan. 1063 00:52:21,320 --> 00:52:24,120 (APPLAUSE) 1064 00:52:24,160 --> 00:52:26,000 (TENSE MUSIC) 1065 00:52:26,040 --> 00:52:27,600 MEL: Hello. JACQUI: Hello. 1066 00:52:27,640 --> 00:52:28,680 ALESSANDRA: Hello. RYAN: Hey, guys. 1067 00:52:30,560 --> 00:52:32,880 Good to see you. JOHN: Good to see you two. 1068 00:52:32,920 --> 00:52:35,280 I hope. (LAUGHS) 1069 00:52:35,320 --> 00:52:36,800 We've got a lot to talk about tonight. 1070 00:52:36,840 --> 00:52:38,680 Yes. 1071 00:52:38,720 --> 00:52:41,640 So, let's start with you first, Ryan. Sure. 1072 00:52:41,680 --> 00:52:45,080 You were very open about your feelings last night. 1073 00:52:45,120 --> 00:52:47,000 Yes. 1074 00:52:47,040 --> 00:52:50,920 About Jacqui, the relationship, your homestays, 1075 00:52:50,960 --> 00:52:54,320 your values, your opinions on things. 1076 00:52:54,360 --> 00:52:57,200 It almost felt like watching you at the dinner party 1077 00:52:57,240 --> 00:52:59,720 you were coming out all guns blazing. 1078 00:52:59,760 --> 00:53:02,400 You've been sitting on many things 1079 00:53:02,440 --> 00:53:04,960 and you wanted to get a lot off your chest. 1080 00:53:06,920 --> 00:53:10,280 I've wanted more than anything to have a team 1081 00:53:10,320 --> 00:53:12,720 and to have a best friend 1082 00:53:12,760 --> 00:53:16,040 and ultimately an organic love that could grow from that 1083 00:53:16,080 --> 00:53:17,960 and that's why I came into this experiment. 1084 00:53:18,000 --> 00:53:20,200 However, I don't believe 1085 00:53:20,240 --> 00:53:24,280 that should come at the ultimate cost of who you are as a person. 1086 00:53:25,640 --> 00:53:28,680 The last week was just a prime example of that. 1087 00:53:28,720 --> 00:53:31,760 At times I've felt I haven't had a partner, 1088 00:53:31,800 --> 00:53:33,240 I've had a critic. 1089 00:53:36,040 --> 00:53:38,040 You said a lot of things last night. Yep. 1090 00:53:38,080 --> 00:53:40,960 But one of the things that really stood out to me... 1091 00:53:41,000 --> 00:53:42,400 Yep. 1092 00:53:42,440 --> 00:53:47,600 ..was that you said to Jacqui that you don't really feel like 1093 00:53:47,640 --> 00:53:50,000 she ever accepted you as a man. 1094 00:53:50,040 --> 00:53:51,880 (LAUGHS) 1095 00:53:51,920 --> 00:53:54,120 Not just that, as a person. 1096 00:53:54,160 --> 00:53:57,160 (LAUGHS) As a person. And I knew... 1097 00:54:00,600 --> 00:54:02,720 Jacqui... Jacqui, hold on. MEL: I'm not sure what's funny. 1098 00:54:02,760 --> 00:54:03,760 Jacqui, explain yourself. 1099 00:54:03,800 --> 00:54:05,000 What the hell is so funny about this? 1100 00:54:05,040 --> 00:54:09,240 Why are you laughing about something that is so, so important to him? 1101 00:54:09,280 --> 00:54:11,920 TEEJAY: It's horrible. JACQUI: Because... 1102 00:54:11,960 --> 00:54:13,200 These things are not a laughing matter. 1103 00:54:13,240 --> 00:54:16,000 ..he always refers... says I have to support him as a man 1104 00:54:16,040 --> 00:54:17,760 and it's man and wife 1105 00:54:17,800 --> 00:54:19,560 and I've taught him that you don't speak to me like that. 1106 00:54:19,600 --> 00:54:23,040 You have to say, like, husband and wife. 1107 00:54:23,080 --> 00:54:25,040 We're in a relationship, so it's a thing of respect. 1108 00:54:26,360 --> 00:54:31,560 Jacqui, just so you know, I've asked him a very, very personal question 1109 00:54:31,600 --> 00:54:38,360 about the fact that he feels that you don't accept him as a man, 1110 00:54:38,400 --> 00:54:40,840 as a human being... Mmm. 1111 00:54:40,880 --> 00:54:43,280 ..and as the person that he is... Exactly. 1112 00:54:43,320 --> 00:54:46,640 ..and you laughed, 1113 00:54:46,680 --> 00:54:48,680 rolled your eyes and giggled. 1114 00:54:50,720 --> 00:54:52,560 Just sit with that. 1115 00:54:52,600 --> 00:54:54,000 Now, back to you, Ryan. 1116 00:54:54,040 --> 00:54:56,560 Explain. 1117 00:54:56,600 --> 00:54:59,000 What I really needed last night 1118 00:54:59,040 --> 00:55:03,160 was to just table everything for the whole week. 1119 00:55:03,200 --> 00:55:06,880 So, going into each other's worlds for me was absolutely critical 1120 00:55:06,920 --> 00:55:10,720 and even before the homestays, I was so committed 1121 00:55:10,760 --> 00:55:13,320 to show up and immerse myself fully 1122 00:55:13,360 --> 00:55:15,440 in everything that Manly had to offer 1123 00:55:15,480 --> 00:55:16,960 and that's exactly what I did. 1124 00:55:17,000 --> 00:55:20,120 And I don't feel like that was reciprocated 1125 00:55:20,160 --> 00:55:21,560 when Jacqui went to my place. 1126 00:55:22,960 --> 00:55:25,320 And I have a whiteboard, I have a vision board 1127 00:55:25,360 --> 00:55:28,360 which is set up in my family room and it was blank. 1128 00:55:28,400 --> 00:55:29,800 It had a to-do list and a goal list, right? 1129 00:55:29,840 --> 00:55:34,600 And I just knew there's things that Jacqui would find distasteful 1130 00:55:34,640 --> 00:55:37,880 or not really lining up with 1131 00:55:37,920 --> 00:55:40,400 her sort of living arrangements, you know, 1132 00:55:40,440 --> 00:55:44,400 like, a poster I have up or, you know, a decorative sense 1133 00:55:44,440 --> 00:55:48,200 or "This shouldn't be there and you should do that to improve it." 1134 00:55:48,240 --> 00:55:51,640 I felt there was disagreements about how to manage my dog. 1135 00:55:52,880 --> 00:55:54,960 You shouldn't make lists about 1136 00:55:55,000 --> 00:55:57,280 things you want to improve in your partner 1137 00:55:57,320 --> 00:55:59,040 because that just makes them feel belittled, 1138 00:55:59,080 --> 00:56:01,440 it makes them feel not good enough. 1139 00:56:01,480 --> 00:56:05,640 Jacqui, do you see Ryan as a project that needs to be worked on? 1140 00:56:05,680 --> 00:56:06,760 Absolutely not. Changed? 1141 00:56:06,800 --> 00:56:08,080 No. Modified? 1142 00:56:08,120 --> 00:56:09,120 It feels that way. No. 1143 00:56:09,160 --> 00:56:11,280 It feels that way. Absolutely not. 1144 00:56:11,320 --> 00:56:13,800 So, why do you think Ryan says that? 1145 00:56:15,520 --> 00:56:18,160 Basically, instead of seeing a relationship 1146 00:56:18,200 --> 00:56:20,080 as a space for two people, 1147 00:56:20,120 --> 00:56:22,040 he sees it as just his way 1148 00:56:22,080 --> 00:56:23,680 and you've got to accommodate to me. 1149 00:56:23,720 --> 00:56:26,400 I look for a compromise always 1150 00:56:26,440 --> 00:56:29,240 and so when I approach relationships, 1151 00:56:29,280 --> 00:56:33,280 I'm, like, trying to understand what the other person wants and needs 1152 00:56:33,320 --> 00:56:36,680 and I feel like I've compromised on basically everything... 1153 00:56:38,920 --> 00:56:40,160 in this relationship. 1154 00:56:40,200 --> 00:56:41,640 I've never asked you to compromise, though. 1155 00:56:41,680 --> 00:56:44,000 Can you give us a list of some of the things 1156 00:56:44,040 --> 00:56:47,320 that you feel like you've compromised in with this relationship? 1157 00:56:49,720 --> 00:56:51,360 (SIGHS) Um... 1158 00:56:53,320 --> 00:56:54,320 Yeah. 1159 00:56:54,360 --> 00:56:57,920 I feel like probably... 1160 00:57:00,480 --> 00:57:02,760 Like, sleeping times. 1161 00:57:02,800 --> 00:57:05,520 (SOME LAUGHTER) 1162 00:57:06,880 --> 00:57:08,080 Explain. 1163 00:57:08,120 --> 00:57:11,960 So, Ryan doesn't like it if I wake up early to go to the gym 1164 00:57:12,000 --> 00:57:14,320 or accidentally wake him up... (LAUGHS) 1165 00:57:14,360 --> 00:57:15,240 ..and... Really? 1166 00:57:15,280 --> 00:57:17,200 Yeah, that time you got really mad at me 1167 00:57:17,240 --> 00:57:19,040 when I woke up early to go to the gym and... 1168 00:57:19,080 --> 00:57:21,400 I don't... I'm sorry, I don't recall that. 1169 00:57:21,440 --> 00:57:22,720 (SOME LAUGHTER) 1170 00:57:25,200 --> 00:57:27,320 What else have you got for us, Jacqui? 1171 00:57:27,360 --> 00:57:29,480 The cleanliness around the kitchen. 1172 00:57:30,600 --> 00:57:31,840 (LAUGHS) 1173 00:57:31,880 --> 00:57:33,840 'Cause Ryan just leaves his bowls and the dishes 1174 00:57:33,880 --> 00:57:37,080 out in the sink for, like, up to a day 1175 00:57:37,120 --> 00:57:38,480 and it didn't stop happening, 1176 00:57:38,520 --> 00:57:40,240 so I realised maybe it's an ingrained habit 1177 00:57:40,280 --> 00:57:42,000 and maybe I just have to let it go. 1178 00:57:44,000 --> 00:57:45,640 (BLEEP) hell. 1179 00:57:45,680 --> 00:57:47,880 Anything else? 1180 00:57:47,920 --> 00:57:49,880 I let him now watch TV in the bedroom, 1181 00:57:49,920 --> 00:57:53,360 which is a massive compromise for me 1182 00:57:53,400 --> 00:57:56,840 and, like, it is kind of annoying 1183 00:57:56,880 --> 00:57:58,440 and one night it was keeping me up a lot 1184 00:57:58,480 --> 00:58:01,160 and I did ask if he could turn the TV off 1185 00:58:01,200 --> 00:58:04,720 and he kind of wanted to argue a little bit more 1186 00:58:04,760 --> 00:58:09,640 and get more time with the TV and it was... 1187 00:58:09,680 --> 00:58:10,680 Yeah. Go on. 1188 00:58:10,720 --> 00:58:13,120 I don't have a memory of a TV argument there. 1189 00:58:13,160 --> 00:58:15,880 I was trying to sleep. It was 12:30 at night. 1190 00:58:15,920 --> 00:58:17,240 Well, look, I do understand 1191 00:58:17,280 --> 00:58:20,640 when you say that you don't feel like there's been compromise... 1192 00:58:22,160 --> 00:58:27,880 but these situations, they are very...niche. 1193 00:58:30,160 --> 00:58:31,840 When we talk about the TV... 1194 00:58:35,240 --> 00:58:36,520 when we talk about... 1195 00:58:38,960 --> 00:58:43,280 (CRIES) 1196 00:58:43,320 --> 00:58:47,320 (DRAMATIC MUSIC) 1197 00:58:47,360 --> 00:58:49,080 (CRIES) 1198 00:58:50,160 --> 00:58:52,800 (CRIES) 1199 00:59:02,160 --> 00:59:04,000 Well, look, I do understand when you say 1200 00:59:04,040 --> 00:59:06,800 that you don't feel like there's been compromise 1201 00:59:06,840 --> 00:59:10,400 but these situations, 1202 00:59:10,440 --> 00:59:13,840 they are very...niche. 1203 00:59:15,200 --> 00:59:17,800 When we talk about the TV... 1204 00:59:21,400 --> 00:59:23,480 when we talk about... 1205 00:59:26,440 --> 00:59:30,560 (CRIES) 1206 00:59:35,480 --> 00:59:38,200 (CRIES) 1207 00:59:44,200 --> 00:59:46,000 You'll be OK. 1208 00:59:46,040 --> 00:59:48,120 MEL: Jacqui, can you just take some deep breaths? 1209 00:59:49,360 --> 00:59:52,040 (CRIES) 1210 01:00:01,920 --> 01:00:05,760 I do understand that I'm an idealist, like, at times. 1211 01:00:05,800 --> 01:00:08,240 And maybe I'm unrealistic. 1212 01:00:08,280 --> 01:00:09,920 Yeah. 1213 01:00:11,480 --> 01:00:13,760 But I think the things I stand hold on 1214 01:00:13,800 --> 01:00:15,160 are things that are pretty important, 1215 01:00:15,200 --> 01:00:17,680 like respect and healthy communication... 1216 01:00:20,320 --> 01:00:21,400 not being yelled at. 1217 01:00:21,440 --> 01:00:23,680 Like, it's those things that I really hold onto. 1218 01:00:23,720 --> 01:00:26,400 And those are the things that trigger him. Yeah. 1219 01:00:28,440 --> 01:00:31,720 I don't like seeing you like this. It makes me emotional as well. 1220 01:00:33,440 --> 01:00:35,880 But when I try to talk to you, 1221 01:00:35,920 --> 01:00:37,800 I feel like I haven't had a safe space, 1222 01:00:37,840 --> 01:00:39,800 that my views have been under the microscope. 1223 01:00:39,840 --> 01:00:43,120 Who I am, my identity and how I interact with the world, 1224 01:00:43,160 --> 01:00:44,720 it doesn't meet your approval. 1225 01:00:44,760 --> 01:00:48,240 And I just feel drained, Jacqui. I'm just... 1226 01:00:50,560 --> 01:00:52,040 I've taken accountability, I've apologised 1227 01:00:52,080 --> 01:00:55,160 and still, when it came to homestays, 1228 01:00:55,200 --> 01:00:58,640 it didn't feel like enough to meet your standards. 1229 01:01:00,800 --> 01:01:02,120 Why do you feel like it didn't, 1230 01:01:02,160 --> 01:01:05,000 it isn't enough and it didn't meet my standards? 1231 01:01:07,960 --> 01:01:11,080 He's explained himself on the couch the whole time. 1232 01:01:11,120 --> 01:01:12,160 You clearly didn't listen. 1233 01:01:12,200 --> 01:01:14,120 TEEJAY: This is the first time we've heard Ryan speak like this. 1234 01:01:14,160 --> 01:01:15,720 It's actually awesome to hear him speak like this. 1235 01:01:15,760 --> 01:01:17,600 Like, you can feel what he's saying. 1236 01:01:20,600 --> 01:01:24,280 Because I complain about things that are normal? 1237 01:01:24,320 --> 01:01:26,480 ADRIAN: You what? BETH: Huh? 1238 01:01:27,880 --> 01:01:32,480 Scolding and yelling at me and not standing up for your wife. 1239 01:01:32,520 --> 01:01:34,160 Like, that's normal behaviour. 1240 01:01:34,200 --> 01:01:37,400 Jacqui, I've got to ask you, like... Yeah. 1241 01:01:37,440 --> 01:01:40,720 ..Ryan's sat here tonight and been very clear to you. 1242 01:01:40,760 --> 01:01:43,920 Yeah. What do you have to say to that? 1243 01:01:43,960 --> 01:01:46,760 I think for me, like, there's certain behaviour 1244 01:01:46,800 --> 01:01:49,200 that I don't tolerate... AWHINA: You're deflecting. 1245 01:01:49,240 --> 01:01:50,800 JAMIE: Jacqui, I think you're very wrapped into 1246 01:01:50,840 --> 01:01:54,400 how it makes you feel, instead of just going, 1247 01:01:54,440 --> 01:01:57,360 "I've hurt this man and this is where I've gone wrong." 1248 01:01:57,400 --> 01:01:59,600 I don't want to be scolded at. 1249 01:02:02,040 --> 01:02:03,200 ALESSANDRA: Jacqui... Yeah. 1250 01:02:04,840 --> 01:02:09,880 ..so, you don't see you when you point out specific things to Ryan 1251 01:02:09,920 --> 01:02:14,440 that can make him feel like he's not accepted by you as a person? 1252 01:02:16,480 --> 01:02:18,880 Because we've observed it throughout many weeks. 1253 01:02:18,920 --> 01:02:20,880 It's been the entire experiment. 1254 01:02:23,600 --> 01:02:24,680 It's part of the reason 1255 01:02:24,720 --> 01:02:27,760 why we have been so confused by your relationship, 1256 01:02:27,800 --> 01:02:30,640 the ups and downs, the incongruencies... 1257 01:02:34,720 --> 01:02:37,400 Well, so many times we've heard about his intellectual capacity 1258 01:02:37,440 --> 01:02:38,960 not being up to par. 1259 01:02:39,000 --> 01:02:42,160 You asked him last night why he didn't want to be great. 1260 01:02:44,440 --> 01:02:46,280 Yeah, I did. Yes. Yes. You did. 1261 01:02:46,320 --> 01:02:48,240 I asked him why he didn't want to be great, yeah. 1262 01:02:48,280 --> 01:02:49,560 Yeah. What does that imply? 1263 01:02:51,440 --> 01:02:53,640 It implies that you don't think he's great, 1264 01:02:53,680 --> 01:02:57,200 that you're not embracing him. 1265 01:02:59,560 --> 01:03:01,200 (THUD) Oops. 1266 01:03:01,240 --> 01:03:03,200 TEEJAY: Jesus Christ. 1267 01:03:03,240 --> 01:03:07,320 Even the fight you picked the other day about my facial hair... 1268 01:03:09,800 --> 01:03:14,640 these little things tip the scales for me, OK? 1269 01:03:14,680 --> 01:03:17,760 I'm trying to understand why you keep treating me like this, Ryan. 1270 01:03:17,800 --> 01:03:20,840 Treating you like what? RHI: What? 1271 01:03:20,880 --> 01:03:23,080 Like, for example, at homestays, 1272 01:03:23,120 --> 01:03:26,200 why you sat there while your friends yelled at me. 1273 01:03:26,240 --> 01:03:28,280 Don't bring it back to that. 1274 01:03:28,320 --> 01:03:30,080 Jacqui, right now, we're having a conversation 1275 01:03:30,120 --> 01:03:33,120 about how you have made Ryan feel with your comments. 1276 01:03:33,160 --> 01:03:37,240 Try to stay in focus and let's talk about that 1277 01:03:37,280 --> 01:03:39,400 because that is very concerning. 1278 01:03:42,000 --> 01:03:45,680 Do you think, Ryan, that you're good enough for Jacqui? 1279 01:03:45,720 --> 01:03:50,720 It doesn't matter to me now. I'm good enough for me. 1280 01:03:52,000 --> 01:03:55,600 So it became less of a question of being am I good enough for her 1281 01:03:55,640 --> 01:03:59,600 as in, like, how small do I need to feel 1282 01:03:59,640 --> 01:04:03,840 in order to be malleable and moulded into her standards 1283 01:04:03,880 --> 01:04:06,640 and her perfect vision and I just had a moment of clarity. 1284 01:04:06,680 --> 01:04:09,000 I'm, like, "No. No, no, no." 1285 01:04:10,040 --> 01:04:14,480 I've got a beautiful life and I'm honestly happy with myself. 1286 01:04:16,840 --> 01:04:18,680 ALESSANDRA: Jacqui... Yeah. 1287 01:04:22,280 --> 01:04:25,080 ..do you think that you can wholeheartedly, 1288 01:04:25,120 --> 01:04:29,840 for real, really accept Ryan for who he is? 1289 01:04:34,600 --> 01:04:37,120 There's parts of his behaviour that I can't accept. 1290 01:04:40,400 --> 01:04:43,520 But I do accept Ryan as a person, yes. 1291 01:04:44,680 --> 01:04:45,720 I do. 1292 01:04:48,000 --> 01:04:50,040 Parts of him. 1293 01:04:51,880 --> 01:04:53,360 (SIGHS) I'm a little confused. 1294 01:04:55,320 --> 01:04:59,040 How does the acceptance have conditions? 1295 01:04:59,080 --> 01:05:04,160 Because I don't accept being spoken to in rude tones. 1296 01:05:04,200 --> 01:05:06,320 I don't accept being scolded. 1297 01:05:06,360 --> 01:05:11,320 I don't accept the way you tell me what to do. 1298 01:05:11,360 --> 01:05:15,400 Do you understand when I say 1299 01:05:15,440 --> 01:05:19,400 it's hard for me to build a connection with someone 1300 01:05:19,440 --> 01:05:23,400 when I'm constantly watching every word that I say, 1301 01:05:23,440 --> 01:05:26,560 wondering if it's going to be analysed, dissected, 1302 01:05:26,600 --> 01:05:27,800 made of into a list? 1303 01:05:30,320 --> 01:05:32,600 Can't you reference previous behaviours 1304 01:05:32,640 --> 01:05:34,960 and ways I literally have forgiven you... 1305 01:05:35,000 --> 01:05:38,120 I said it... I said it last night. That's what commitment is. 1306 01:05:38,160 --> 01:05:44,480 JOHN: Jacqui, I think it's very clear what's being said tonight. 1307 01:05:44,520 --> 01:05:50,440 What you say to your partner berates them, it puts them down, 1308 01:05:50,480 --> 01:05:52,640 it's critical and judgemental. 1309 01:05:52,680 --> 01:05:56,440 And if you want your partner to grow with you, 1310 01:05:56,480 --> 01:05:59,800 that will not produce that outcome. 1311 01:06:01,520 --> 01:06:07,080 I need you to think about that as we go to the decision. 1312 01:06:08,560 --> 01:06:09,560 Stay or leave? 1313 01:06:11,280 --> 01:06:12,440 Ryan. 1314 01:06:14,280 --> 01:06:15,720 (SIGHS) 1315 01:06:17,040 --> 01:06:18,800 Homestays for me was... 1316 01:06:18,840 --> 01:06:21,840 it wasn't make-or-break, it was... 1317 01:06:21,880 --> 01:06:24,000 (SIGHS) 1318 01:06:25,320 --> 01:06:26,600 I'm struggling. 1319 01:06:26,640 --> 01:06:28,320 I'm really struggling and I don't want to be struggling. 1320 01:06:30,080 --> 01:06:34,200 So, unfortunately I wrote 'leave'. 1321 01:06:37,320 --> 01:06:38,960 JOHN: OK. 1322 01:06:39,000 --> 01:06:42,920 (TENSE MUSIC) 1323 01:06:44,320 --> 01:06:45,720 Big decision. 1324 01:06:45,760 --> 01:06:47,600 Let's go to you now, Jacqui. 1325 01:06:47,640 --> 01:06:50,600 What do you want to do? 1326 01:06:54,760 --> 01:06:55,720 Um... 1327 01:06:55,760 --> 01:06:57,160 Yeah. 1328 01:06:57,200 --> 01:07:02,120 (DRAMATIC MUSIC) 1329 01:07:08,080 --> 01:07:11,440 Let's go to you now, Jacqui. What do you want to do? 1330 01:07:14,280 --> 01:07:15,960 JACQUI: Um... 1331 01:07:17,600 --> 01:07:18,600 Yeah. 1332 01:07:22,920 --> 01:07:25,240 Well, I wanted to talk it out 1333 01:07:25,280 --> 01:07:27,760 and, like, have some healthy communication 1334 01:07:27,800 --> 01:07:30,720 'cause this is the first time I've kind of heard Ryan be upset. 1335 01:07:32,960 --> 01:07:36,320 Like, I've been trying to get the opportunity to speak to you 1336 01:07:36,360 --> 01:07:39,800 and I tried so much last night 'cause that's all I wanted. 1337 01:07:44,400 --> 01:07:47,160 So that's why I wrote 'stay', so that we can talk about it 1338 01:07:47,200 --> 01:07:49,400 and, like... (SIGHS) 1339 01:07:49,440 --> 01:07:50,520 ..resolve things. 1340 01:07:50,560 --> 01:07:52,480 Oh! WOMAN: What? 1341 01:07:52,520 --> 01:07:54,800 CARINA: Yeah. 1342 01:07:55,840 --> 01:07:57,200 RYAN: Why... JACQUI: I don't want to... 1343 01:07:57,240 --> 01:07:58,440 Why did you write 'stay' 1344 01:07:58,480 --> 01:08:04,400 when you've expressed unhappiness at multiple intervals? 1345 01:08:07,720 --> 01:08:10,120 I've expressed happiness as well, Ryan. 1346 01:08:12,840 --> 01:08:14,200 This is a rollercoaster... 1347 01:08:14,240 --> 01:08:15,640 I know, but it seems imbalanced, you know. 1348 01:08:15,680 --> 01:08:19,960 I need justification for why you want to continue this with me. 1349 01:08:22,880 --> 01:08:24,560 I'm happy as a person but... 1350 01:08:24,600 --> 01:08:26,240 I've only just heard about your hurt. 1351 01:08:29,640 --> 01:08:31,960 Jacqui, I've got a question for you. Yeah. 1352 01:08:32,000 --> 01:08:35,040 You writing 'stay', 1353 01:08:35,080 --> 01:08:39,440 do you think this relationship is worth fighting for? 1354 01:08:45,120 --> 01:08:47,840 I think Ryan is worth fighting for, yeah. 1355 01:08:47,880 --> 01:08:49,720 (GASPS) 1356 01:08:49,760 --> 01:08:51,240 AWHINA: No, you don't. 1357 01:08:54,480 --> 01:08:57,520 JOHN: If you want to fight for this relationship, 1358 01:08:57,560 --> 01:09:00,160 you'll need to do some heavy lifting now. 1359 01:09:03,880 --> 01:09:08,360 And, Ryan, I know there are walls up. It's clear. 1360 01:09:08,400 --> 01:09:12,520 But this is a chance for you to see 1361 01:09:12,560 --> 01:09:15,560 whether your words have landed with Jacqui. 1362 01:09:17,640 --> 01:09:19,120 It's a tough one. Mmm. 1363 01:09:22,040 --> 01:09:24,680 As you know, when one person says 'stay' 1364 01:09:24,720 --> 01:09:25,720 and the other person says 'leave', 1365 01:09:25,760 --> 01:09:29,960 the couple stays in the experiment for one more week 1366 01:09:30,000 --> 01:09:31,800 to try and turn it around. 1367 01:09:34,000 --> 01:09:38,520 In this case, it's to final vows. 1368 01:09:43,600 --> 01:09:45,880 If you want to go, you can go home. It's OK. 1369 01:09:49,440 --> 01:09:51,880 I just say we talk about it and then we can just leave. 1370 01:09:51,920 --> 01:09:53,520 I just want to talk about it, that's all. 1371 01:09:58,280 --> 01:10:02,400 We will have a conversation. We will talk. We will talk. 1372 01:10:04,640 --> 01:10:06,800 With that being said, 1373 01:10:06,840 --> 01:10:09,120 thank you for being so honest and raw with us on the couch. 1374 01:10:09,160 --> 01:10:12,720 We appreciate it. There's been a lot of feedback. 1375 01:10:12,760 --> 01:10:16,480 Take it on, mull it over and let's see where you end up. 1376 01:10:16,520 --> 01:10:18,240 You can go back to the group. 1377 01:10:18,280 --> 01:10:19,600 OK. Thanks, guys. 1378 01:10:19,640 --> 01:10:21,120 (APPLAUSE) Thank you, guys. 1379 01:10:25,400 --> 01:10:26,480 (CRIES) 1380 01:10:26,520 --> 01:10:28,800 It actually just feels disappointing that Ryan's written 'leave'. 1381 01:10:28,840 --> 01:10:30,440 (RYAN SIGHS) 1382 01:10:30,480 --> 01:10:32,960 I've compromised so much 1383 01:10:33,000 --> 01:10:36,280 and I really tried to make space for him in my life 1384 01:10:36,320 --> 01:10:37,720 and consider him. 1385 01:10:37,760 --> 01:10:39,400 Goddamn. 1386 01:10:39,440 --> 01:10:41,760 JACQUI: Every time I try and understand, 1387 01:10:41,800 --> 01:10:43,080 he just shuts down 1388 01:10:43,120 --> 01:10:45,600 and it made me think that he's actually not capable 1389 01:10:45,640 --> 01:10:47,040 of healthy communication. 1390 01:10:47,080 --> 01:10:51,200 But, like, I wanted that peace, so I just really wanted to see 1391 01:10:51,240 --> 01:10:53,440 if we could make this happen one last time. 1392 01:10:53,480 --> 01:10:55,760 (SIGHS) 1393 01:10:55,800 --> 01:10:58,000 I think he owes it to the relationship. 1394 01:11:04,200 --> 01:11:06,720 MEL: This year, we said we were taking the experiment 1395 01:11:06,760 --> 01:11:08,000 to new heights. 1396 01:11:08,040 --> 01:11:09,400 WOMAN: What is this? WOMAN 2: Oh my gosh! 1397 01:11:09,440 --> 01:11:12,400 VOICEOVER: For the first time ever... 1398 01:11:12,440 --> 01:11:14,600 MEL: The ultimate test for our couples. 1399 01:11:14,640 --> 01:11:17,720 ..an invitation for temptation. 1400 01:11:17,760 --> 01:11:20,680 During the matchmaking process, there was more than one person 1401 01:11:20,720 --> 01:11:21,800 you were compatible with. 1402 01:11:21,840 --> 01:11:24,240 For this final task, you have the opportunity 1403 01:11:24,280 --> 01:11:25,760 to meet them. 1404 01:11:25,800 --> 01:11:27,520 You won't believe... 1405 01:11:28,000 --> 01:11:30,160 Think it's borderline cheating. 1406 01:11:30,920 --> 01:11:31,720 Yeah, I'm gonna do it. 1407 01:11:31,760 --> 01:11:34,880 Who falls into temptation? 1408 01:11:34,920 --> 01:11:38,480 Probably bet my life that he won't choose to meet this other match. 1409 01:11:38,520 --> 01:11:40,640 WOMAN: So if you're so happy, why are you here?